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Quit being so entitled

Its not entitlement, it’s a solution to a much larger issue of people lacking communication skills. If you have the funds for the encounter the deposit should be of no issue, especially if the deposit is a relatively small amount. It shows a true intention of meeting and should something upend the encounter on the side of the provider it would be easy to refund. Should the person cancel themselves then it is not a complete loss. We understand that people are busy and life happens, but the world does not revolve around our clientele. We have things to do that we reschedule to make time for clients who don’t care in the slightest about what we go through to make things happen for them. It’s an abusive relationship that providers are constantly, and consistently, told to put up and shut up in because clients cant be bothered to be decent human beings anymore. It’s completely asinine.

Today I had the pleasure of speaking with a client for almost 4 hours on Rentmen. He initially reached out to me and asked for my unlock code, which I gave and left a note with, as I usually do. The note typically reads something like, “Enjoy the view Are you visiting Vegas soon?” After which he explained his situation.

He said he was turning 60 on October 2nd and wanted to celebrate his retirement with some hardcore domination over the course of the 2nd and the 3rd of October. For this he was offering upwards of $2,000. He was unsure of wether or not that was a service I could provide because of my appearance, stating I looked “kind” and like I “couldn’t hurt a fly”, but I assured him that if he took pleasure in it, I would too. He also stated that regardless of that fact he still reached out to me because he loved the way my dick looks.

Fast forward about 2 hours later and he is asking, no, demanding, a “sample”. I thought to myself, “Sure, what could it hurt? I can give this man a discounted price on an hour long encounter to ensure a much larger, much more substantial payout in a month or two.” I told him that I could give him an hour of my time tonight for $200, to which he replied, “Samples are free. I see what kind of person you are. I only wanted 5 minutes.” At which point I shrugged and said, “Alright for 5 minutes I’m willing to take a smaller donation. Maybe a dollar a minute?” He was not happy. He attempted to guilt trip me and then stated he had another, larger and more painful dick, as his second choice and would be going to him. At this point I was fed up with the gentlemen and told him that was fine. He could go with him and that he should stop messaging me if he was going to continue to just waste my time.

This is when he decided to not so vaguely threaten me and then block me. I don’t know what I’m looking for here, maybe clarity on what his thought process might have been? Ideas on how I can prevent ordeals like this from reoccurring? Maybe a new resource? Rentmen is becoming more and more of a miss for me lately because of things like this.

I’ve been attempting to find clients there for a few weeks but it seems to just be another hookup site. Might as well just stick to Grindr if youre looking for a hookup, at least guys on there are less weird about their kinks.

Its becoming harder and harder for me to book appointments in my city. Anyone else having this issue?

I feel those with “influencer” status on IG reap the most rewards, it really requires you to vigorously market yourself via social media. Most are not up for that nor know how.

Ah, well since I obviously don’t have those kinds of resources at the moment. I guess I should just link it here?

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Recently I’ve started posting more on my Onlyfans, but the amount of subscribers I have now has dropped drastically from where it was before. Does anyone have any idea of a place I could advertise it that would net a good amount of subscribers? It’s not like I charge an arm and a leg to subscribe either. My subscription fee is $10. That gets people access to videos and pictures of me not posted anywhere else on the internet. Any ideas where I could share the link and get some subscribers?

Recently I’ve started posting more on my Onlyfans, but the amount of subscribers I have now has dropped drastically from where it was before. Does anyone have any idea of a place I could advertise it that would net a good amount of subscribers? It’s not like I charge an arm and a leg to subscribe either. My subscription fee is $10. That gets people access to videos and pictures of me not posted anywhere else on the internet. Any ideas where I could share the link and get some subscribers?

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#FreeTheNipple amirite?

Cancelations are unavoidable. They’ll always happen. Even No Shows. You can take every precaution imaginable and still have it happen. I’d suggest you just brush it off, wish them well and move on. If they canceled for a real reason, being sweet to them will only pay off positively for you in the future.

 

A very good client of mine cancelled when I traveled to his city for his birthday. I arranged other appointments in addition to him but we both know that this particular city isn’t a great market for me. He had real excuses and felt terrible. He actually still paid me in full, despite my telling him not to.

 

This business is about building relationships and treating people right.

Of course. Things happen and people can no longer do what they arranged to do sometimes. I completely understand when that happens. My issue is when people cancel because, and I can not make this up, “I found someone for free.”

Yes, you can cancel on me if you find a better, cheaper option. It’s understandable and it makes sense.

No, it is not acceptable for you to cancel just because you found someone free. Especially when you cancel without even informing me that you found service elsewhere. At that point I’ve wasted time and money making arrangements in an attempt to accommodate someone who has thought little, if any, about the type of situation I am placed in due to their decision making.

We all get it. Shit happens. Plans change. The responsible, sensible, and generally right thing to do in these situations is inform each party involved of any changes that may effect the plans made. I extend that courtesy to each of my clients and very rarely do I receive it in return.

I know, it's tragic this summer. And I know about Las Vegas. It's not that far to get around anywhere there. But I can assume the tourists expect you to be right next door in a casino hotel, like in the movies, waiting naked and smoking a Cuban.

 

Here's my thing, if an escort is not convenient: GET A ROOM. That's the problem with these guys. Some are too cheap to get a room. A room in Las Vegas is $20-$50 a night. When I want to fuck in different city, I get a room. Free sex or paid sex. I don't wait for people to host and be close by to me. I'd be waiting forever for that, because most gay (and straight/bi) guys under 50 can't host. And the ones who talk about getting a room are liars. They do that shit on purpose to get a rise. Call me talking about they can get a room if I can't host. Then don't even do it. I had that yesterday, except for me: I had a room already, and he still didn't show up.

 

But they can keep playing games, and I can just keep collecting cancellation fees. I've received about a handful of them since the weekend prior to the 4th of July. At this point, I'm collecting just as many cancel fees as actual meetings. Two can play that game.

 

I really do wish there were better ways to get in contact with those who are actually willing to meet and go through with the exchange in it’s entirety. I would ask for deposits or cancellation fees but more often than not, for me at least, it scares off potential clients and I’m left empty handed.

These are the 2 phrases that are becoming far too common, yet have very little reliability behind them.

 

Generally I advertise my travel locations ahead of time, but I generally don’t have a line of hotels already booked before I arrive because let’s face it: shit comes up, dates change/clients can’t make it and then it doesn’t look make sense to go.

 

What gets me are when guys contact when i put my ad in a city, and they ask “where you going to be staying” before I even get there. I tell them all the time, I’ve not yet confirmed hotel location, it will be given shortly before my arrival by X time of day. Even if I did a hotel lined up, how safe is it on my end, to be giving out which hotel I’m at before I even get settled in.

 

The problem is, when I don’t give them hotel info: sometimes I get the whole, “well we didn’t make an appointment” when I would follow up to confirm, and they flake or say something come up and I ask for a cancellation fee. One guy tried to use the excuse, “well I didn’t know what hotel you’d be at” as a way of saying we didn’t make an appointment, even though I made it clear I would be following up the very next day to confirm, which I did at 9 am...and he says something came up.

 

Frankly at this point I’m so so sick of hotels and sick of guys asking where I’m staying when they hit me up. I’m about to announce “I DON’T HOST”, but it seems the majority of clients want us to host, but the problem is it often gives them too much room to back out, and most guys asking to come to me, aren’t as reliable as the clients who can host.

 

On top of that, when I do host and tell them the hotel location, half of them exclaim, “that’s too far for me” or “I can’t get out there, it’s too far, thought you’d be staying downtown”

 

Has anyone seen the rates for hotels this summer? It’s ridiculous. Too expensive. Every city I’ve been to, and weekends get worse. Most hotels get sold out days ahead of getting there. It’s always some kind of event or conference or something going on, and clients don’t understand that stresses our options for hotels. I just want to travel city to city and meet guys who can host, and simply get an affordable hotel anywhere in town. If someone happens to be able to come to me great, but I’m getting tired of NEEDING to host, and needing to host in places that are convenient to clients.

 

Solutions?

I’m sick of having this same issue with people who are visiting Vegas. It seems like this summer there’s been an influx of guys who will flake if you do tell them where you are hosting and guys who ask for no reason other than to say its too far. It’s become a major annoyance and slight hinderance.