Coolwave35

I didn’t set out to lay it on the escorts feet at all, and the intention of this post was to correct what I’m doing wrong. We actually realized as the sun was rising, long after dinner and well beyond when I should have left that we fucked up the transactional nature of the experience. As I said earlier, I expected him to pull the plug and ask me to leave at the end of our pre agreed time, but I see now that it is equally if not more my responsibility to stop when it’s done to avoid this. At least Walmart makes an announcement at closing to get you the hell out lol. I’m itching to rehire and apply all I’ve learned here.

I didn’t set out to lay it on the escorts feet at all, and the intention of this post was to correct what I’m doing wrong. We actually realized as the sun was rising, long after dinner and well beyond when I should have left that we fucked up the transactional nature of the experience. As I said earlier, I expected him to pull the plug and ask me to leave at the end of our pre agreed time, but I see now that it is equally if not more my responsibility to stop when it’s done to avoid this. At least Walmart makes an announcement at closing to get you the hell out lol. I’m itching to rehire and apply all I’ve learned here.

I expect escorts to continue to be a prominent part of my life, so getting it right is very important to me. I appreciate all the insight I got from more experienced men.

because we really clicked in his city when I was with him and I enjoy the familiar more than I enjoy shooting in the dark.

Lol. Oh god is this dramatic????

Yes, that is what I'm paying for. I don't hire to fulfill any need of the escorts other than fattening his bank account when he leaves. That is the nature of the transactional relationship we are both seeking. Not that I intended to get into this, but you seem to want to discuss it so I'm fine with that. He isn't my "partner", he's my husband, since June 21, 2012 and we're quite happy with our arrangement. We arrived at what would work for us, with a trained premarital counselor because neither of us wanted to end up divorced. I'm not convinced our arrangement would have worked with any other man I dated, but it works perfectly for us. He knew from the beginning of our courtship that if he wanted children I wasn't the man for him. I made that clear, so I didn't take anything from him. I communicated what was important to me in life, he communicated what was important to him, and we used a professional to help us hammer out a compromise over 9 months that we're both quite happy with. With a 50% divorce rate, you may do well to bend your expectations a bit. Or don't, it is your prerogative. The old vision of marriage and traditions aren't fairing too well these days, particularly in the gay culture. Lots of our friends have some version of an open marriage, and we tend to be the ones I see going the distance. The ones that fall apart are the ones who can't even breach the subject of wanting to sleep with someone else. Both partners want it. They can't bring it up. They cheat, they lie, they try to lie their way around it some more, it happens again, they split up. I get to tell my husband everything I'm up to. He gets to have his adventures, and the love stays.

This is great. We talked about this, and neither one of us were sure who was responsible for ending it. I always assumed it was on the professional. This makes sense to me though. Thank you!

In this particular case, I know his real name, age, former profession, youtube channel, real facebook profile, all things I can honestly say I'm not interested in. Was it fun to have a hot guys attention in a decent NYC hotel room for a couple hours, yeah, but it ruined the sexual fantasy that he had been able to deliver when he was just an escort flown in for pleasure. Of the last 6 escorts I hired, 3 I have flown to meet me. 4 I have had this issue with. The reason it is a problem too is that it is making repeat business harder because it isn't just sex.

I absolutely enjoyed the company afterwards to a point. As the sun rose I realized I had a problem. After he was showing me things on his personal facebook, and I learned his real name, it went beyond my original intentions. There was a point where it went from "this is cool" to "this is ruining the fantasy." I'm trying to figure out how to not let that happen again and many of you have offered solid advice, thank you.

Short answer, yes. Long answer, he was in a city he had never been to and didn't have anyone else and I imagine bored / lonely a bit.

Yes, quite clearly.

Thank you to the guys who took time out and offer advice. Obviously, I want to start with the negative critics. My husband and I enjoy an open marriage. Before we got engaged, we compromised on several things. I wanted an open marriage and I didn't want children. He insisted that we have pets, that he can decorate our home how he likes, and I can't enter politics until I'm 60. These were the biggest sticking points but it was predetermined and our dynamic works for us. For the it takes 2 to tango remarks, you're absolutely right. I've been realizing things I can do differently to curb some of what is happening, but it wasn't enough. I really like the guys that pointed out I'm paying for them to leave. I'd never heard that and it's amusing AND true. The ones attacking that I'm impressive enough that escorts want to stay. Absolutely not the case. I over tip and am over generous, and the money leads them wanting to ensure repeat visits. They give extra attention and affection to ensure I'm happy so they get repeat business, but it's leading me to NOT want to see them. I guess the better question is how do I balance using money to ensure good service, with clearly communicating the good sexual service I'm expecting.

I need a little advice. I'm married and enjoy escorts when I travel. I often pay for extended hours, but never do an overnight. Recently I've been hitting it off and flying repeat hires out to meet me. I'm doing this for the sex, the experience etc, but NOT the companionship and friendship as I'm not available for that. I'm 33, and hire guys 25-35. We have great sex, but then there is this awkward friendship that forms that I'm not looking for, often perpetuated by the professional. Last night, a 3 hour romp in NYC led to an all nighter where we just stayed up talking, and switched the dynamic. It made payment awkward as he insisted he "punched out" after the 3 hours, and the other 8 were off the clock because he liked the company and enjoyed the conversation. Anyone have any advice on discouraging this type of relationship change? I'm hiring professionals so I don't have to have the mess of emotions, or friend with benefit situation. I hope I'm explaining this well.

And he knows how to find talent!

He’s in NYC this weekend. I’m excited to see him again.

Davidmusclex is local to Brookhaven, and there are two other white guys that are available, and 1 Latino. Your best bet is to get to a buffdaddy show on Long Island as he has LOTS of options about 15 minutes from you.

Yes

I’m a premium user and find the private content helpful in making my decisions. I hire 8-12 times per year. If I am moderately interested in an escort, and their gallery is locked, I won’t bother them for the password. I’ll only contact a pro if I’m ready to hire. I don’t kick the tires as I respect your time.

That was my experience too! They both asked for me to film them and I happily obliged. They’ll be posting the rest of the videos on some platforms in the near future. All in all about 1/2 an hour of film exists of the 3 hours we spent together. I also told him it was your review that got me to bite, and I followed you over to daddy’s review to say more nice things. Who else have you enjoyed? You have good recommendations lol

They posted some video I shot to twitter.

I had him tonight and he was incredible. Spent two incredible hours with him and verslildevil. Fun fun fun!

I hired him about 6 years ago and he was using those same photos. He arrived and hardly resembled them. It was a lackluster experience I’d steer clear.

I was with him in November and I'm happy to answer any questions you might have.

I had an incredible experience with him over thanksgiving. It was a bit more than I wanted to spend, but it was well worth it. I definitely recommend.

I’ve enjoyed my time with him very much and think he would be a great fit for what you’ve described. Good luck and have fun.