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Interestingly enough as I alluded to in my prior post, in Judaism we aren't really supposed to decorate graves. I'm wondering if originally it was thought to be idolatrous. We don't embalm either. Technically per at least one of the ancient rabbis, people were not supposed to be buried in their finery. Death was supposed to be a great equalizer between rich and the poor. Religious Jews (men) are supposed to be buried in a simple white robe called a kittel. This robe is also worn by the groom at weddings (Note: I'm not sure I've ever seen one worn by a groom. But as far as I can remember, I've never been to an Orthodox wedding. All the weddings I've been to have either been Conservative, Reform, and/or mixed marriages.) But back to the no decorating graves, that's why in general there aren't flowers on Jewish graves. The scene in Driving Miss Daisy where Daisy is planting flowers on her husband's grave is a big mistake. Gman

But if @BasketBaller doesn't call the guy MY MAN, then the guy will never know that @BasketBaller is in deep deep like with him so. That @BasketBaller's life is just despair. But that @BasketBaller doesn't care because when HiS MAN is there, the world is bright. It's all right. And what's the difference if @BasketBaller says that he'll go way. When @BasketBaller knows he'll come back another day. For whatever @BasketBaller's guy is. He is HIS. Gman (With deepest apologies to @BasketBaller, his friend, Fanny Brice, Barbra Streisand, and all of you out there in Message Center Land as I just couldn't help myself.)

I also forgot to say-and I needed to look up some specifics-but in Judaism "praying to the dead" (I am quoting from a website) was not encouraged. So the practice of visiting the cemetery was to be restricted to certain special times. One of these as I discussed above is the yearly Yahrzeit. Another occasion is more of a community event. It occurs on the Sunday between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. Members of the congregation will meet for a service at the cemetery. Where I grew up, the community was too small for its own cemetery. I believe the service was held at the Jewish section of one of the local cemeteries. I actually can't remember if I ever went. Maybe once when I was in college. When I was growing up, I always viewed it as one of those things adults did. I'm not sure very many children attended. On the other hand I don't know for sure as I never went. We also have to custom of when we go to a grave, we find a small rock or stone to put on the headstone as a sign of respect. If you go to a Jewish cemetery/grave, you may very well see some rocks on top of the headstone. It's a sign someone visited. Looking at one website, it said the custom may have originated because rocks were once used to mark our the positions of graves. At my father's resting place, some family has donated a stone/concrete receptacle to hold stones to be placed on the headstone, so you don't have to look around on the ground to find one. Gman

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In the Jewish religion we have a yearly remembrance for people. In Yiddish the period is called Yahrzeit (Year Time, if this were German the word would be Jahreszeit and means Season. In this case I think a better translation for the Yiddish is probably Anniversary). It's mainly observed for parents. There are certain prayers that are said, a 24 candle is lit on the day, and the grave is visited. I didn't go to my father's yet this year. His was in March. But I'll go some time. My brother will stop by my Dad's grave from time to time not only at Yahrzeit time. And I went in honor of my Dad's birthday last year. Since I don't have any children-I doubt anyone will be celebrating my Yahrzeit. Gman

I love how Val Kilmer replies, "Not right now," as if with a little notice ahead of time and just a bit of practice, he'd have no problem at all. Gman

He's a bit too young looking for me. But I can see the attraction. Gman

What is the LeoList? Gman

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I can't really dispute with you since it's so difficult to see in this photo due to the shadows. Gman

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He lists his age as 18. But he started advertising on RM 5 years ago. Anyone see any discrepancy in this? ? Gman

Was there anything specific that made you think he escorted? Gman

I believe you are talking about Eric York. Before I ever hired, I lusted after him for years. Gman

Maybe he means he's a contained entity. Gman

Maybe he means he's a contained entity. Gman

My Mom was so excited. They finally reopened the beauty shop at her retirement community. She went for her appt today-the first since March. The hot water wasn't working. They had to cancel her appt. Gman

Unfortunately only one semi-romance before this And he's now in a new romance and won't even respond to a 'I hope you're doing well in this strange time we're living in" email. ??? Gman

Well he's an idiot. He texted me this morning and said he had been at work; and then didn't answer last night because of other responsibilities. HOWEVER-I do not think it was a case of my insecurities getting the better of me. I think any reasonable person would have thought/reacted the way I did. I mean he talks about having an overnight. I say I'm interested. But I admit to having sleep apnea which might prove disturbing for him. And then complete radio silence immediately after that for 15 hours. Normal people would have at least said-gotta go-work is getting busy. Talk later. Gman

I'm a simple man. Gman PS. Plus he's really cute.

@Charlie, any chance I could peruse ? these records? I'm betting I'd find them fascinating. Gman

He may have blocked me. I tried calling. The number said "User Busy". I don't ever remember getting that before. Gman

well when you are in the middle of a conversation about spending the night and he suddenly goes silent. I think feeling he's pulled back is a reasonable assumption. But if I'm wrong, I will happily admit it. Gman

That's a good idea assuming he ever talks to me again. Or in a future situation. But I truly did not think he would ghost me. I thought If the answer was no we'd at least talk about it. And I didn't bring up the BiPAP machine because I thought for sure that would freak him out. Gman

William-I dont think you understand. If it were just a night of me not sleeping well, I could probably endure. I do take occasional inadvertent naps without it. But I am told I snore very loudly without the machine. My brother was told years ago that he had borderline sleep apnea. I lived at his place for a year. I could hear him snore thru two closed doors I'm not sure how my sister-in-law hasn't smothered him in his sleep over the last 44 years to get a good night's sleep herself. Without me on my machine DPCG would never have been able to sleep unless he were deaf. That would have gone over well I'm sure. It was better for me to bring up the situation and explain about the machine. The machine wouldnt have prevented snuggling. And it's very quiet-quieter than most hotel a/c's. I certainly didn't expect complete radio silence like this from someone who seemed like a reasonable person. Gman