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I can think of a more productive form of resistance.


"Dear Fellow Providers,
 
This letter is in regards to the Sex Worker Protection campaign of 2018, #SexWorkerProtection2018. You may be aware of the effects FOSTA/SESTA has had on your business and peace of mind. I am requesting, on the behalf of the entire adult industry, that you ask your clients to contribute an amount equal to 10% of your fee (or more), to one of following organizations that lobby for sex worker rights or provide legal support for people who host websites related to sex work:
 
< list of organizations>
 
etc... "
 
This is what would motivate me to spend more money as opposed to the opportunistic money-grab being proposed by the OP.

Maybe @BlakeBenz has enough rich clients and a price rise will make no difference to his overall income, or increase it.
I don't have any problem with class actions like this, they have helped groups of people before gain rights and grow their income.
 
I also agree with those who say that it has nothing to do with the law changes, this is pure economics calculations.
 
I myself have a budget for companionship and I will NOT, because I cannot, go over that budget.
So the most expensive escorts will loose my business, and if every single one of them is more expensive, I will save my money for when I am abroad.
I mean, I like spending time with local guys, but only to a point.
 

 
Yeah, let's especially book you less often.
 

 
Thank you for telling me how to lead my own life, but no, thank you.

First, THANK YOU!
 
I've read and re-read everyone's comments a number of times, slowly realizing that most of the questions I left unasked were just anxiety about being clean and relaxed enough to enjoy ...
 
As for the advice - @oldNbusted handled the majority of questions with one link (and thank you for that). Reading @MassageDrew and @NuSingle reminded me that the rare bottom experiences I had, remember and fantasize about, started with (copious alcohol and poppers, and...) me on my back or spooning.
 
@NuSingle, thanks for the comment about poppers. I came out in New York and Houston in the late 70's, poppers were integral to my coming out experience. A number of brands available in London are still quite good.
 
I also realized that the phrase "size inappropriate" left too much to the imagination... The escort I'm hoping to start with next week advertises as 8 inches, and it was looking at his advert that prompted my question. There is a guy in Paris I sometimes fantasize about who is 9 inches, but I think of him as a very advanced classes best left for the future.
 
finally, THANK YOU - I'm very much looking forward to next week.

I enjoy poppers when I bottom AND when I top. I am fortunate in that, in general, they do not give me headaches. It totally magnifies the entire experience for me. The only downside is it can close up my sinuses. I’ve found a couple shots of Flonase before play helps with that. As far as using them, you have to develop your understanding of your own tolerance, but I can hit them pretty hard and heavy personally. That wasn’t the case initially, though. They just relax me and put me in a place where I am totally focused on my senses. You might experiment with them while jacking off - that’s fun too.

First, THANK YOU!
 
I've read and re-read everyone's comments a number of times, slowly realizing that most of the questions I left unasked were just anxiety about being clean and relaxed enough to enjoy ...
 
As for the advice - @oldNbusted handled the majority of questions with one link (and thank you for that). Reading @MassageDrew and @NuSingle reminded me that the rare bottom experiences I had, remember and fantasize about, started with (copious alcohol and poppers, and...) me on my back or spooning.
 
@NuSingle, thanks for the comment about poppers. I came out in New York and Houston in the late 70's, poppers were integral to my coming out experience. A number of brands available in London are still quite good.
 
I also realized that the phrase "size inappropriate" left too much to the imagination... The escort I'm hoping to start with next week advertises as 8 inches, and it was looking at his advert that prompted my question. There is a guy in Paris I sometimes fantasize about who is 9 inches, but I think of him as a very advanced classes best left for the future.
 
finally, THANK YOU - I'm very much looking forward to next week.

J always retell my experience with the great Antton Harri. One of the truly great men in open/escorting. The bottom is always the one in control. Not only does your body need to respond but so is your head. A good top will work your butt tonhet it ready. Lube a must/or anal ease will help a lot. My suggestion is try laying on your back with your legs on his shoulders as he enters. Eye contact and kissing works wonders. Once he is inside after the initial penetration hopefully you will be into the experience. From there alternative positions or continue in that position I love grabbing and slapping his butt as he's thrusting. There are some great tips in NYC.

Great tops not tips. Lol

Explore many positions to find your most comfortable/relaxed. I really need to be on my back to start things off, but then I’m pretty comfortable in any position after that.
 
If you tolerate/like poppers give that a try. It’s a major enhancer of my bottoming experience. Just educate yourself about them first.

First, THANK YOU!
 
I've read and re-read everyone's comments a number of times, slowly realizing that most of the questions I left unasked were just anxiety about being clean and relaxed enough to enjoy ...
 
As for the advice - @oldNbusted handled the majority of questions with one link (and thank you for that). Reading @MassageDrew and @NuSingle reminded me that the rare bottom experiences I had, remember and fantasize about, started with (copious alcohol and poppers, and...) me on my back or spooning.
 
@NuSingle, thanks for the comment about poppers. I came out in New York and Houston in the late 70's, poppers were integral to my coming out experience. A number of brands available in London are still quite good.
 
I also realized that the phrase "size inappropriate" left too much to the imagination... The escort I'm hoping to start with next week advertises as 8 inches, and it was looking at his advert that prompted my question. There is a guy in Paris I sometimes fantasize about who is 9 inches, but I think of him as a very advanced classes best left for the future.
 
finally, THANK YOU - I'm very much looking forward to next week.

First, THANK YOU!
 
I've read and re-read everyone's comments a number of times, slowly realizing that most of the questions I left unasked were just anxiety about being clean and relaxed enough to enjoy ...
 
As for the advice - @oldNbusted handled the majority of questions with one link (and thank you for that). Reading @MassageDrew and @NuSingle reminded me that the rare bottom experiences I had, remember and fantasize about, started with (copious alcohol and poppers, and...) me on my back or spooning.
 
@NuSingle, thanks for the comment about poppers. I came out in New York and Houston in the late 70's, poppers were integral to my coming out experience. A number of brands available in London are still quite good.
 
I also realized that the phrase "size inappropriate" left too much to the imagination... The escort I'm hoping to start with next week advertises as 8 inches, and it was looking at his advert that prompted my question. There is a guy in Paris I sometimes fantasize about who is 9 inches, but I think of him as a very advanced classes best left for the future.
 
finally, THANK YOU - I'm very much looking forward to next week.

Actually @jrbjcr is right and I was wrong: there is something you can learn without actually doing it. I never use dildos myself, so I hadn’t thought about it.

First step, yes, @oldNbusted got the right link.
As to size and pain, and other difficulties... yes, a lot, a lot and a lot of lube. For the rest, well it is very hard to teach without doing it. An expert top that will understand your lack of experience and boundaries is probably the best option. You can start with a smaller guy first.
I am usually top also, and I am not into big dicks because I always think they cannot top me without hurting me, but I have been surprised by huge guys in Brasil that just know how to do it. They literally just get in there slowly, and you think “where is the pain? I can feel him, he is huge, but no pain?”.

The best way to learn is just by doing it. There’s really no one position where it doesn’t hurt for me. However, I fond it’s easier for me when we’re on our side, spooning position. It’s more of a question of the top’s dick size for me. The bigger and thicker the more it hurts of course. But once you’re relaxed then it’s more fun than painful.

If you've never bottomed before, I'd recommend you try some dildos on yourself first. Start with a smaller plug and then you can move on up. Find a position that works for you. Definitely lube up well. At least get used to the sensation first. Learn how to relax. This way, you'll be more prepared when you bottom with someone.
 
And every top is different. Some need to really go fast to keep their hard on, while others can take their time.

Very good point. The skill and sensitivity of the top is at least as important as his size. A guy with a large dick who is connected and committed to giving you the best possible experience is far better than someone with a small dick who is an inconsiderate jerk.

Well, there was this one thread...
 
How To Clean Your Ass - Best Instructional I've Seen

Not sure if this is the correct forum, but could someone point me towards existing threads about learning to bottom?
 
I'm a client, rent every few weeks, and have always seen myself as top or top/versatile... but the past few months find myself quite attracted to top and top/versatile escorts. I've not yet followed through, but find myself checking out a number of escorts who are size inappropriate for my extreme lack of experience...
 
Is there a position that's easier than others... or is this all personal choice and patience and breathing (and lots of lube)? Live in London if you have any recommendations...