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It’s all good. I’d prefer to know now and save my cash rather than waste it on a subpar experience. Or find another provider that is more accepting and welcoming.

My instincts alerted me. Thanks for the validation!

Is this guy real? https://rentmasseur.com/Davidloma Anyone have first hand experience?

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Well, I won’t be able to vouch for that myself unfortunately. Word of caution to bigger guys. Contacted Ron and asked about availability. First response was welcoming saying he’d love to work on me. When I asked if he’s welcoming of different body types, I received some lame passive aggressive response that he’s nursing a hand injury and it’s difficult for him to work on “bigger guys” right now and has to work lighter than normal until he is fully healed. Hmm...maybe I like lighter pressure anyway (I don’t but that’s not the point...lol). A hand injury recovery as a masseur that inhibits one’s ability to perform as normal might have been something to disclose up front, not after someone tells you their size. Gotta call BS on that one. Message received. Pass, and move on.

Hello again men! Had to share my latest experience/response from a masseur. Contacted Ron in SF (https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/1260/) and asked about availability. First response was welcoming saying he’d love to work on me. When I provided my usual disclosure about my size and asking if he’s welcoming of different body types, I received some lame passive aggressive response that he’s nursing a hand injury and it’s difficult for him to work on “bigger guys” right now and has to work lighter than normal until he is fully healed. Hmm...maybe I like lighter pressure anyway (I don’t but that’s not the point...lol). A hand injury recovery as a masseur that inhibits one’s ability to perform as normal might have been something to disclose up front, not after someone tells you their size. Gotta call BS on that one. Message received. Pass, and move on. My method worked as usual to filter out these guys and save me the time, trouble, and money.

Agreed. But have you seen him, or are you only addressing his ad text? Any experiment first hand and in the flesh?

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Yes, I agree with you 100%. Not a negative experience at all, but completely unmemorable except his looks (he is super sexy for sure). He was nice enough, but not sure I’d return.

Didn't hear back, but decided to take the plunge and book with him. Glad I did. The massage was excellent. Amazing firm pressure, and overall one of the best technical messages I can recall. Can tell he is skilled. He is responsive and pleasant. I recommend and will probably be back.

Hello SF peeps, Anyone have experience to share with me about Ron: https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/1260/ PM for details. Thanks guys!

Anyone have any experience with Derek in SF: https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/4188/

I just wanted to send an update. Leo now offers incall appointments in a studio he shares with others. I saw him this past weekend, and it was great. He’s really kind, welcoming, and definitely has legit skills. I recommend him.

Well, I am recently down about 60# since the beginning of the year...and he is pretty slender. Also, I’m 6’3”. Where do you practice? Maybe I’ll come see you...lol

Yikes that’s awkward! . Lol. My worst nightmare.... Just saw a masseur who was doing a technique and standing on my back. He was holding himself up on bars but at one point said he had his full weight on me. I did a rough calculation and our combined weight was around 430#. I thought to myself at the time I was glad the table was sturdy.

I’ve assumed that the table weight limit question was either a signal that it’s a crafty way to filter out fatties or that the provider has a cheap table. lol Just yesterday had a masseur ask for pics in order to discuss the content of the session. I said thanks but no thanks. I don’t need to subject myself to that scrutiny if I also have to shell out a significant amount of money. This was from MF, not a dating site for Pete’s sake.

Thanks for sharing this. Glad you can relate but for different reasons. Couldn’t agree with you more on your perspective about professional masseurs.

Hey guys, I’m a big guy, so typically when looking for a new provider I naturally gravitate to those who specify in the post that they welcome “all body types”. However, those are not very common and there are masseurs that I’m interested in who do not include this. In these cases I will ask up front if they are open to working with larger sized clients and gauge from their response. Sometimes I get back a positive response and book accordingly, other times a very carefully worded lukewarm reaction and I decide to pass. Ive never had anyone blatantly reply negatively, but occasionally get no reply....which I consider a “no” response. I’ve found for me this helps to avoid awkward or uncomfortable situations. The pros have seen it all and understand that part of the job is accepting different people. Those that assume all clients should fit their preference are in the wrong business. Many men (esp “hot” gay men) being unattracted to overweight people is to be expected...believe me, I get that. I’m not saying they need to change their ideas of what they consider attractive, but maybe rethink your career choice. I’ve been very pleasantly surprised with masseurs who have been welcoming and kind, and who didn’t at all make me feel different. On the flip side I have experienced those who I just felt were not into it...going through the paces for a buck. I would not just take a gamble and just hope for a good vibe. Being up front gives the provider an opportunity to bow out gracefully and saves me the money and my dignity in the process. Curious how others handle this?

Looks like he’s listing on MF now: https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/35801/ Contacted him to ask about availability. He responded asking me to tell him about me. Hinted at beyond therapeutic if there is “chemistry”, and asked for pics to discuss it further. No thanks. Pass. I thought I was a paying client, not going on an audition. The price is way too high also.

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Lol...yeah well, lean muscle. Works for me!

Bump. Wondering if anyone has any recent experience with him. He’s visiting my area soon and I’m interested...very sexy pics, and seems cool.

As someone who has seen Ryan a few times I wanted to hopefully qualify this, as “weird” can be a bit subjective. From my observation he seems like an introvert. So the social interaction of meeting essentially strangers does seem uncomfortable to him. Could also be chemistry. Not sure. So, yeah the small talk was a bit forced, but I did not at all feel any of this in the massage itself.