My experiences have some common elements with what film geek wrote a few months ago.
I've had the experience of gaining and losing vast amounts of weight throughout my life - multiple times. Society's reaction based on size is real. Obesity-discrimination is often called the last sanctioned bigotry in America. I can share tales of job-search, customer-service, dating, etc etc rejection... sometimes the same exact people and places treating me differently plus or minus 100+ lbs.
I've come to accept that I am what I am, (but not abandon the pursuit of healthier life). I've had enough negative reactions from escorts that I choose to disclose my size in advance. I was rejected by a couple offering 4-handed massage in the SF Bay Area just last week. With https://www.masseurfinder.com/mobile/listings/view/codyanddrew/
I'd prefer to avoid the negatives, and just get it out there.
Parenthetically, I'm one of those clients who is very careful, asking a lot of questions in advance. I set some ground rules. I'm absolutely certain some escorts have declined my business because I asked too many questions. I choose to believe that in weeding out the bad prospects, I've probably turned-off some good ones, but its the price I pay in pursuit of satisfaction. That I negitotiate contracts in my professional life undoubtedly carries over to this behavior. So addressing my size when I'm larger is part of a process.
When I'm at a larger size, I prefer the airlines that have clearly published guidelines for passengers of size. I know what to expect etc. It feels awkward and inconsiderate when, last minute, I'm subjected to evaluation by gate agents or flight crew members.
So I disclose. In all situations, I am exceedingly attentive to hygiene, being aware of some extra challenges, and sensitive to the stereotypes of big-smelly-fat guy.
Reading the posts of most of the escorts on here is reassuring. Although it's been a long time, I've been with a lot of great guys for whom my size wasn't an issue.
Remember this.... the escorts making intelligent posts, demonstrating thoughtfulness here on the boards, aren't necessarily representative of the entire universe of escorts. Any escort or porn actor whose been around will tell you they've met more than their share of assholes in their industry. If by disclosing my size, I avoid the assholes, I'm okay with that. It just enhances the likelihood of working with the good guys.
My experiences have some common elements with what film geek wrote a few months ago. I've had the experience of gaining and losing vast amounts of weight throughout my life - multiple times. Society's reaction based on size is real. Obesity-discrimination is often called the last sanctioned bigotry in America. I can share tales of job-search, customer-service, dating, etc etc rejection... sometimes the same exact people and places treating me differently plus or minus 100+ lbs. I've come to accept that I am what I am, (but not abandon the pursuit of healthier life). I've had enough negative reactions from escorts that I choose to disclose my size in advance. I was rejected by a couple offering 4-handed massage in the SF Bay Area just last week. With https://www.masseurfinder.com/mobile/listings/view/codyanddrew/ I'd prefer to avoid the negatives, and just get it out there. Parenthetically, I'm one of those clients who is very careful, asking a lot of questions in advance. I set some ground rules. I'm absolutely certain some escorts have declined my business because I asked too many questions. I choose to believe that in weeding out the bad prospects, I've probably turned-off some good ones, but its the price I pay in pursuit of satisfaction. That I negitotiate contracts in my professional life undoubtedly carries over to this behavior. So addressing my size when I'm larger is part of a process. When I'm at a larger size, I prefer the airlines that have clearly published guidelines for passengers of size. I know what to expect etc. It feels awkward and inconsiderate when, last minute, I'm subjected to evaluation by gate agents or flight crew members. So I disclose. In all situations, I am exceedingly attentive to hygiene, being aware of some extra challenges, and sensitive to the stereotypes of big-smelly-fat guy. Reading the posts of most of the escorts on here is reassuring. Although it's been a long time, I've been with a lot of great guys for whom my size wasn't an issue. Remember this.... the escorts making intelligent posts, demonstrating thoughtfulness here on the boards, aren't necessarily representative of the entire universe of escorts. Any escort or porn actor whose been around will tell you they've met more than their share of assholes in their industry. If by disclosing my size, I avoid the assholes, I'm okay with that. It just enhances the likelihood of working with the good guys.
