I don't think today's social media access has a lot to do with my ideas re: my appearance/desirability. Since I came out about 30 years ago, I've always been the last picked among my friends. I rarely hooked up at bars and have never been cruised in any other place that seems to happen to many men I know (gym, Kroger, pool, party, etc). I used to be jealous that my sex/romantic life was dull compared to the exuberant courses of my friends and peers, but it just became evident that folks are different. Some of us are beige. If everyone were exceptional looking, no one would be. It didn't affect me until I was in my late thirties and I started getting depressed when I'd hang out and remain alone. I stopped going to bars and focused more on visiting with friends and making new pastimes. That led to outright celibacy rather than a twice-a-year dalliance, but I am certainly more content. Sorry for meandering. I just meant to say that in person experiences taught me that I'm not of interest to most men outside friendship, not Grindr, etc.and I'm okay with my looks although they are far from my best feature.