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As a newbie who hasn't pulled the trigger on my first hire I'm glad you posted this question. I actually scheduled someone a month or so ago, but had to cancel. I was planning to have him to my home and we texted and I never thought twice about my phone number or having him to my place. I'm nervous and thought I'd be comfortable that way and he agreed. The only plus to going to his place was less cost which is a consideration for me.
 
Basically I'm not worried about extortion as I'm not worried about being outed other than the embarrassment of paying for sex which the more I read on this forum the less concerned I am about that.

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Many clients have no trouble hiring to their home. Use basic common sense when you're inviting an unknown stranger into your home and it may work for you.
 
It would never work for me. Here are some reasons why and perhaps they will help you as you think through the scenario.
 
1. I'm not out nor do I have anything to be outed about (I'm happily bisexual) but I do have facets of my life that would be harmed by someone publicizing the hiring of an escort and/or my enjoyment of sex with men.
 
2. My job is sensitive and some-what public, so the risk of extortion is real and possible. Are you a teacher? A doctor? An executive at a public company? A politician? Someone who is a "well known" citizen may face some negatives by being outed as a person who hires male escorts, even if they live in West Hollywood.
 
3. I have made certain promises at home about discretion and safety, so escorts will never--to the best of my ability--know enough about me to cause me to break those promises. I love my wife too much to risk her disappointment or cause her pain given her generosity in allowing me the ability to fulfill these needs.
 
4. One or more of my kids are too young to understand why dad hires escorts sometimes, so again, privacy matters.
 
5. Lastly, I won't risk inviting a potentially dangerous stranger into my home or even allowing them to know where I live. Plus there's no way to ever make sure the house would be empty without raising questions or suspicions.
 
For me, hiring an escort means also getting a hotel room. Given my first experience, I won't go to a complete stranger's home either. It's too risky. I use a VoIP number for calls and texts and a throw-away email for those communications. There are other steps I take, but that's for another post. Good luck!

And on the other hand... just so you don't think there's a unanimous opinion on this subject...
 
Over the years I'm sure I've had over 30 guys into my home without a single problem. Even the one I sent away because he completely misrepresented himself caused no trouble.
 
You just have to do a basic risk vs reward analysis. Are you in a situation where you could be extorted? Or is the worst thing that could happen is that you'd be embarrassed because you paid for sex? You live in West Hollywood for goodness sake. I doubt you are closeted and subject to that kind of blackmail. I doubt that you have a wife you are cheating on, so unless you have a partner that you are hiding this from, just what would they have to extort you with?
 
I make contact with my unblocked cell phone number. I give my home address as soon as I'm sure I want to make the date. I do this because I much prefer an outcall to my home (I like the home turf advantage) and I want to make the escort as comfortable as possible coming to a stranger's house.
 
This works for me because I'm not in the closet, I don't have privacy issues and I would laugh if someone tried to extort me. I don't readily tell guys where I work, but even if they went to the trouble of finding out, the worst they can do is embarrass me a little bit. The only possible thing they could do is come back to my house uninvited, but I tend to hire busy man with much better things to do.

Interesting. I hadn't thought about the issues you raise. I was thinking more about perhaps petty crime, stealing or the like. I'm not sure really how I could be extorted but I'm sorry that happened to you. I hadn't thought about their being a problem using my phone either. How often do these sorts of things happen? I was actually thinking the risk would be lower than meeting someone at a bar. Does having a gold or verified RM profile and some reviews make you feel safer?

My hard rule is NOT to have an escort come to my home. I value my privacy. I even use a "disposable" Google Voice number and an "escort only" e-mail when making arrangements.
 
I started hiring over 25 years ago and have never regretted it. But, I've also learned to be very cautious. Good Grief has a very valid concern about the potential for extortion.

Be super careful about who you might invite to your home. They will have your address and can obtain your real name, even if you don't divulge it.
 
I say this because early in my hiring career I had a fellow come to my home. Had a great time, sex and all. Pretty soon, he started making demands and threatening to "out" me in my community if I didn't meet the demands.
 
I hired an attorney and had an agreement written up. Not without some expense on my part.
 
Extortion. Simply.