I always tell them my race age height and weight. I think it takes away some of the anxiety the provider may have since they are inviting a stranger in their house. I am currently dating an asian man which started as a hook up. When i met him i thought he was italian. Either way was fine by me. He did tell me that there is a pecking order within the asian community with the Japanese at the top of the list and so on. so not only are they discriminated in the gay community they too discriminate against other asian cultures.