gentlewick

I had this same problem. I thought about converting them to digital and started to, but realized I'd never look at them (hadn't looked at any of the DVDs in years). Ended up putting them in giant trash lawn bags (black) and had a junk company haul them away with a lot of other stuff. And I think I may have tossed one bag out with the normal trash. Had around five large lawn garbage bags, maybe six. Was tens of thousands of dollars of DVDs but sometimes you just have to get rid of shit. Also I had way too much porn - that was the second big purge, the first one had a lot of VHS and some DVDs. With the Internet I've noticed I'm collecting downloads but that gets regularly deleted once in awhile.

I had an escort ask recently for a photo "to associate with my number for his phone", and I said I don't send out my picture but if we met more than the one time I'd be OK with it. He was OK with that. I'm also perfectly willing to walk away if someone insists on it.

I think it's the same concept of "microaggressions", e.g. someone advertising they don't accept people of a certain race. Members of that race will see it and move on but it still stings. That being said there are a lot of other posts in this thread that are interesting and those are the ones I was responding to primarily.

I'd never send a pic. Stats and age if they ask. The only times I would lead with "I'm a tall, large bear" or similar would be when I first started hiring because I was a lot more afraid of being rejected. Frankly if it becomes too much like dating or hookup apps or whatever, no thanks. If I see an escort asking for specifics (which is a more subtle way of rejecting people based on age or weight or race) or worse - stating that clients must be hwp / fit in their profile I move on but I still feel a little hurt and rejected even if we never make contact. And I also don't want my pic out there associated with an escort. I can't tell you how many times I get spam emails from escorts whose accounts have been compromised and spammers are sending malware or other links to their address books. Having my picture in their inbox somewhere, no way. I treat the first meeting with an escort as a trial run. No discussion of preferences unless they ask and I just go with the flow in person. If we don't do more than the basics it's fine and if we have a connection we can discuss more specifics for another session. Doesn't work for out of towners but those meetings have different expectations. Also... It's actually really hot to have someone just sit down on my dick when I wasn't really expecting it.