WolfRamNHard

 

On another topic, @WolfRamNHard, you had some thoughts about uncut dicks.....?

Ok, I was trying to avoid turning this into a navel-gazing (foreskin gazing?) exercise since this thread is in essence about being circumcised, not about being uncut. Moreover, I didn't want to detract from the advice that you've been getting from other circumcised members, which I figure is more useful to you than my casual ramblings about The Foreskin. But with your permission, here goes.

If any of the following bothers or bores anyone, just ignore it and move on to something more interesting to you, no reason to spend precious time complaining. If it happens to intrigue you or entertain you in any way, then I'm glad to be of service.

- Should go without saying but not all uncut dicks are the same. On the one hand there are those where the foreskin retracts all the way back during erection and the foreskin becomes nearly imperceptible. At the other extreme are those with phimosis which is actually abnormal. Most fall somewhere on the continuum between these extremes, in my experience.

- Similarly, not all circumcised penises are the same, as you all know. Some are cut back more proximally, others maintain some residual foreskin. It's interesting to conjecture whether those that are cut "all the way" are less sensitive than those that still possess a little bit of skin.

- As a teenager I used to have these weird theories about how the presence or absence of foreskin makes your dickhead grow differently during puberty, in terms of size and shape. Experience has taught me that none of those theories were true.

- The biggest dick that I have ever had sex with was uncut. However, the 2nd biggest was cut. I'm convinced that foreskin status has nothing to do with size. If anyone has actual data to disprove this, I'd love to see it.

- I'm always surprised by how many cut guys don't know this so I'm going to mention it here. Uncut penises don't require much in the way of lube. I prefer no lube at all, in fact I actively dislike it. The non-keratinized mucosa, the "precum", the protection of the prepuce and the limited exposure to air all combine to provide adequate lubrication. If needed I prefer saliva because it doesn't create a gooey mess. (Obviously I'm talking about masturbation, not anal).

- I find cut erect dicks to be aesthetically very pleasing to look at in real life and in porn, and I do like to admire them visually. However, playing with uncut dicks is more enjoyable to me when it comes to oral and handjobs. I'm *not* referring to playing around with the foreskin which some people are into. I'm talking about the actual texture and feel of foreskin-covered erection in my hand or in my mouth. Something very primal about it. As far as anal, there's no significant difference where I'm concerned.

- Speaking of anal, I've known some uncut guys who prefer to not retract their foreskin all the way during penetration because of sensitivity. In fact, I've known some who actually leave their dick fully sheathed when they put on a condom.

- Foreskin-shaming is a real thing. I experienced it first-hand while growing up. These guys who claim to have "never seen an uncut dick" just need to take an art class or something. Pretty much all Classical, Renaissance and Baroque male nudes have intact foreskin.

- I sometimes wonder how frequently the opposite occurs in Europe and Latin America, i.e., do cut boys get teased at school since uncut is more common? I'm aware that historically anti-Semitism has an association here (being cut marked you as being either Jewish or Muslim since Gentiles are supposed to be uncut). But hopefully contemporary attitudes have improved?

- Somebody once actually implied that I might be anti-Semitic because I admitted that I gravitate towards other guys with uncut dicks. Whatevs!

- It is true that I (subconsciously) disproportionately pick out European and Latin men, and it probably does have to do with the fact that they are much more likely to be uncut (unless they happen to be Jewish or Muslim). To each his own. I remember the first uncut guy that I had sex with, an exchange student. It was an eye-opening, mind-blowing experience for me because up to that point I had become used to being with guys who were mostly clueless about foreskin-covered dongs. In other words, my tendency towards Euro men is quite simply the pursuit of great sex, and not much more than that. They know how to treat it right because they have one too!

- I've found that escorts are really good with uncut dicks, presumably because of their vast experience with all things sex-related (or maybe I've just been very lucky in that regard).

Marketing is one thing, I get that. But real life is much more complicated and nuanced.

Here's a perspective from the other side of this topic, if you will -

I'm uncut and my glans is super-sensitive, especially the dorsal corona. I mean, even a moderate squeeze or focused rubbing with the thumb for several seconds with foreskin fully retracted is sometimes enough to get me on tip-toes and moaning for respite. However, clumsy or overzealous handling is actually painful and not in a good way. Since I'm not someone who derives pleasure from pain, this has the paradoxical effect of making me lose my erection.

I've had experiences where guys hear me moan and respond by increasing the intensity of stimulation without letting up even though I'm desperately trying to push their head away, pulling on their hair, etc. to signal them to just ease up. Then I have to explain why I lost my boner and need to take a break to catch my breath ...

The point is that being too sensitive can also be a problem.

As I type this I have some other seemingly random thoughts about uncut dicks, but I'll hold off for now so as not to risk derailing this interesting thread.

Turn-ons -

solo jerkoff (especially when the performer looks directly at the camera)

straight porn (not sure exactly why and it's probably multifactorial, but one reason might be that the guys' dicks look huge next to the petite women, whereas in gay porn everyone is jacked so it doesn't have the same effect)

Not a turn-off per se, but I get bored with group sex scenes because there's too much going on which makes it hard to focus and really get into it ... I think I'm more of a one-on-one person.

So lately I've been noticing that French guys have the cutest butts.

All that cheese consumption must play a role ... I'll be indulging more frequently in French food from now on

If someone can view a picture of you on their phone, they can save a copy of it with a screen shot.

 

Snapchat does not delete pictures. And has recently added a "here are your memories" (i.e., previous snapchats) feature similar to Facebook's "memories" feature. Read the Terms Of Service, not the marketing, PR, or social media "buzz" about an app before using it if you are worried about privacy.

Good to know, thanks!

I've mentioned a recent positive experience of mine in another thread, but here I'm throwing it open to discussions of Grindr, Scruff, dating sites (I'm on OKCupid) and the like. I sure hope escorts don't encounter as many people as I do who completely ignore or don't read my upfront statement that I want to meet, not chat, that they need to be local (I've now spelled out what that means), they need to have a photo, a profile showing some level of thought and personality, and a comptability ratio (based on the questions OK Cupid uses) north of 50% or so (although a good profile can make up for some of it).

 

Then there's the people who contact you and delete their account the same day or who decide midstream they're no longer interested. Or who stand you up (that's happened once). Or give you a telephone number, ask you to call, then don't call back. I've been asked to Skype by someone who isn't local (answer: no), asked whether he could come inside me (answer also no, but the account was gone by the time I went to respond), asked if he could come on me (answer: yes, but that account was gone then too). I had someone I really wanted to meet balk at using condoms to turn around and contact me four or so days later, ask if I do anal, and expect an immediate response. At that point I felt like I was being treated more like a piece of meat (we'd discussed dick size and positions already) so I waited until the next day tp respond and sure enough, he disappeared.

 

I've also been asked if I'm into younger guys when they're within the age range on my profile (35-65). If I never see the words "want to chat," "darling," "pretty" (strangely, "beautiful" and "sexy" are okay) and "want to get to know you" without any actual questions or specifics about what in my profile attracted them other than my photo, I will be a happy camper. And for awhile it was like pulling teeth to get people to commit to a meeting.

 

What about you?

QTR - I'm glad to have you back. You went on hiatus soon after I joined this forum. I was wondering about you just the other day because I remembered learning a lot from your posts when I first joined.

Coming back to the topic, I'm glad to hear about your positive experience with online dating.

I do quite a bit of app dating myself, and it has its ups and downs like everything else. I find that some apps are better than others, depending on what one is looking for. I can't speak for straight dating apps, but Scruff works well for me, and more recently I started using Surge, which has worked out really well so far. A while back, I tried Grindr for a week before giving up on it, for many reasons but the biggest reasons were too many spam/robot profiles and too many headless torsos.

Faces are important to me, so I prefer that either the profile have a face pic, or at the very least, the other person send me a face pic privately when we're chatting.

My app profile has my face pic, my stats and what I like to do (work, fun, sex, etc.) but there's nothing on there about what I *don't* like for several reasons. I'm generally flexible about most things so there are very few hard and fast rules, and I don't want to discourage anyone from contacting me for something that may not be all that important in the grand scheme of things. Also because I sometimes enjoy trying new things and stepping outside my comfort zone.

As far as explicit pics, I don't have any for privacy reasons. When asked I tell them they can just see it in person if we hook up. If they can't handle that, then so be it. However, I think Surge has a feature where if you send someone a pic during your private chat, they can only open it once. It then becomes inaccessible and disappears so they can't save it or do anything with it (similar to Snapchat). That sounds promising and I might be open to trying it sometime for explicit pics.

Dating can be frustrating at times. There are those who are too afraid to meet in person, others just want to collect pics. Some are not honest in their profiles. And some truly don't know what they're looking for, so they can be wishy-washy. But there are some real gems out there that make it worth the effort. With younger guys, I have found that it helps to be assertive and persistent, and pay them genuine compliments from time to time while flirting.

I don't usually have sex on the first couple of dates. I prefer spending that time getting to know the other person better and evaluating chemistry. That seems to work for me.

I'm sure others do things differently, and I too would be interested in hearing different perspectives on this.

Race only exists as a social construct. When you start looking at skin tone as a phenotype, all the problems disappear.

But most people do not, as a matter of fact, look at skin tone as a phenotype, and many never will (in our lifetimes at least). Ergo, the problems will continue to exist.

I sent an escort a message on Whatsapp asking him if he was okay with the fact that I am black, yesterday in the morning, he's not responded as at this afternoon, so I am a bit weary about the prospects of hiring him.

 

I have been in the US for sometime now and I am still trying to wrap my head around the social dynamics of the American society. Apart from an incident with an escort, I have not had any overt display of racism or racial bias thus, the whole topic makes me deeply uncomfortable. My favorite days are when i hear statements like

1. Hey you talk really funny.

2. Yo, bruh why you talk like you is white.

3. I was not expecting a black person, you sounded really nice over the phone

4. Why are you talking like a British (Briton), you are black.

 

I usually giggle or laugh at statements like those, because i truly find them funny even though I recognise the inherent error in them

Sorry you have to go through this.

That's the United States for you. Racism and other forms of bigotry aren't usually on the surface here, but simmering underneath instead. That's because most Americans are theoretically aware that certain words and actions are rude or improper, and nobody wants to be labeled as racist or bigoted. Overt racism is not commonly displayed here publicly or in polite company, unlike in certain other countries, but it's the actions and "reading between the lines" that give it away.

I suspect that even if an escort in the US has a problem with your race, they will not openly admit as much. More likely, they will probably make some other excuse or just not respond to you.

Take care of yourself first. Make sure that you minimize the possibilities of you having an awful experience, with a hooker, no less. Put it all out on the first email or phone call. Phone call would work better because you can hear an unrehearsed honest response. If you perceive any hesitations, chose someone else.

 

Life is too short for you to put your vulnerable and beautiful self in the hands of someone who might not handle it with the love and care it deserves.

 

And don't ask the general "Do you have any restrictions when it comes to ____?".

 

Directly, honestly state your stats. If you were 350 pounds don't write you are heavy boned, if you are of ay race, mention it, don't say you are mixed or something like that. The more info he gets and the more chances he gets to react to that, the more certain you'll be he might be a nice guy and will take good care of you if you meet.

 

"But shouldn't all escort be able to deal with....?"

 

Honestly, who cares! You come first. Take care of yourself. Only put yourself in hands of loving people. Learn to weed out the ones that aren't.

 

A lot of clients might try to convince you to force the escorts to accept you, to not disclose, equating disclosure with some kind of acceptance of shame. The argument has been made before that letting the escort know in advance is abusive to yourself, as if not confessing the fear will make you love yourself better. Don't let yourself be dragged into this conversation.

 

You come first. Put yourself only in situations in which you will have better chances of being treated lovingly.

Very well stated!

I'd rather see too many pics than too few when trying to decide whether to hire.

Interesting topic. Escorts must be really thick-skinned or have healthy egos (or both) to be able to survive the constant scrutiny. Kind of the opposite of many clients I imagine (thin skinned and fragile egos). I know I could never do it.

Lol! You get a gold star for sweetness! Thank you, but no, mine is fuzzier. Even my groomer says that if we mess with it, the fuzz will come back with a vengeance.

Truereview - from a fellow ass-connoisseur, some of us really like fuzzy butts

By the way, all the pics and captions you post on this thread are immensely enjoyable. I found myself wanting to click "like" on so many of these, but had to hold back when I realized that because there are so many good ones, your box would simply be inundated with several dozen "like" alerts from me. So instead I'll save you from that inconvenience and just "like" Fluffy Butt to keep it simple

I hope this thread lasts forever!

#3 - I'd hit that hard :-P

Hot!!!