Isn't he still working as an escort now, as JLA? Here's his website, and a face pic from that site:
http://www.gpscort.com/Profile/View?username=JayCA01
I saw Stryker in a play in New York. He was not effeminate at all but then again, he was 'acting' in a play. And neither was he as short as your friend claimed. At the very least, he was about 5'9" -5'10". I can say this because the theater was very small, and at one point he got all oiled up and started running around the aisles swinging his dick around, and he got right next to me so I could tell how tall he was.
As for my personal faves, Ryan Idol was someone who looked just as hot up close as he did in his photos, and Aiden Shaw was a fantasy who was as drop dead gorgeous in person. But I would really have loved to have hired Blake Harper back in his prime.