If you had a good experience with him thats fine, I can only speak to my experience. First off, I always strive to be polite and respectful. The communication did not start out well. I contacted him 3 days in advance because I live two hours out. We agreed to meet Saturday night. The next day I get a text saying Saturday night did not work and we agreed to make it in the afternoon. 20 minutes later, I get a text saying he is not sure he can make it in the afternoon and he will get back to me. Friday night, I still had not heard from him so I texted him again. He responded back to me and we set up a time. Really scheduling should not be this hard. If you can't meet with me tell me you are not available. If you don't want to meet with me, tell me you are unavailable.
Now I did get there late thanks to DC traffic being a t a complete standstill (surprise, surprise). Everything started out fine. We made out for an extended period of time which was nice. But he seemd perfectly content to go no further. I took iniative and took care of him. He again made no move so I forced the issue. He reluctantly went down until his face was a couple feet away, he stared for a couple minutes and thats when he said I was gross.
I am not particularly attractive and I am fat but I had told him that in my original contact. And I am not the most dynamic person. It hurt especially because as my depression tells me that he is right that I am a gross freak and totally unloveable.. And then he added insult to injury by lecturing me to smile and be happy as though I should not be offended by being called gross.
Maybe he really did not want to have an appointment at that time. Maybe he found me unattractive. But thats on him.
Other people may have had positive experiences with him but that does not negate my experience and I don't believe the blame should be put on me.This happened in the past and I would like to keep it in the past.
