and the fact that belonging to a certain group by birth and not by choice or taste is part of this "playful fantasy".
I've never heard or Irish Catholics like me having the fantasy of being called drunk, loser, brawler, dumb, etc. I can't imagine someone in Dublin hiring a Northern Irish protestant escort and asking him to dress in orange, sing "God save the Queen" while praising the division of Ireland, etc.... but I'm sure some might have that fantasy because they want to be talked down, etc.