@Cliff at least he told you after several text messages.
Time for you to move on and hire one of the hundreds of escorts who either bottom, top or bot (sometimes without a condom) all over NYC.
Gentlemen: that's why I'd rather talk on the phone for 2 mins instead of texting for hours.
"What do you get into?" is one of my first questions. If the escort doesn't want to be direct he can always answer: "In my private life I enjoy being a top yet sometimes I also bottom" (code language for vers/top).