I guess they are discreet. Doing when someone tells their family they do "massages" and beyond.
It's understandable. Most of us don't tell our coworkers, neighbors, relatives and even friends we hire, right?
How can bottoms know if someone is a "strict top"?
In my honest opinion, the best tops are the ones who occasionally bottom.
to me a "strict top" is someone who tried bottoming and didn't like it...