SaintV

My opinion is explore, don't worry about titles. Don't worry about being a top or bottom. try everything that you are comfortable with. Try things you're not comfortable with, but know your limits. I was always a top with guys. It's almost funnily enough, like I thought it was "gay" to be a bottom. I liked being in control, In the bed, at work, everywhere. Until I was actually talked into being a submissive bottom. The feeling of not having to be in control. Where you just follow direction and only have to be in the moment and let somebody else guide things is the greatest feeling ever for me. Now the role can change depending on who I'm with. I still greatly enjoy being a top. But I have learned that being a bottom is pretty great also. I prefer to be a submissive bottom, but just do what you like. Don't be scared to try anything within your limits.

I kind of have a crazy view point on this. I really haven't assigned myself a label, Bi, gay, whatever. I would say long term relationship or marriage; I'm pretty straight. But I have many fetishes and I kind of consider gay sex as another fetish. I'm into BDSM, piss, and a load of other things. I just want my sex to be fun and feel kind of wrong at the same time. I get with guys and depending on the person, I will go from top to bottom, dom or sub or whatever I'm feeling at the time. Also the person I'm with will affect that. I just really enjoy all aspects of sex. From normal to down right crazy. I have things I'm not into, like feet or trans. Nothing against that, but it's my personal preference. I think more people should experiment more, and be able to be open about fantasies or fetishes. At the end of the day does a label really even matter?

Well, the other night I wrote a long and detailed post answering all the questions. But somehow when I hit submit, it disappeared. I was a bit unhappy and decided to come back and try again later. This one is going to be a little quicker. Started with the volunteer FD when I was 18. Probably about 130 pounds soaking wet. There are height and weight requirements, but they vary from FD to FD. Each county and state have different standards. I was plenty big enough to carry fire hoses, and being smaller was an advantage when having to crawl into tight spaces. It's a good thing to have a smaller person on the team, sooner or later you will need them. I stayed about 140-145 pounds through the majority of my twenties. I'm five foot nine. Always slender but pretty fit because of my jobs. But I also worked crazy hours for more than a decade. Twelve through sixteen hour shifts. Never had a chance to sit still, never had time to eat properly or sleep for more than five or six hours at best. Now, I work eight hour shifts, with a still physical job but much less unwanted cardio. I just weighed myself again and I'm at 165. Still not fat, but have a bit of a belly. I'm actually excited that I can actually gain weight now, and just want to gain it in the right way. And the home gym is a bit more than a thrown together cheap set up. I go all in with everything I do. It's not what I want yet, but I'm going to keep building it as needed. When it outgrows the house, I'll put a shed out back and keep expanding. The reason I'm doing this instead of going to a regular gym is because that would be an hour out of my way every day. I'm not a new years resolution to go to the gym, and give up after two months kind of person. When I make my mind up on something, that's it. It pushes me even further when I'm financially invested in it. I'm not going for a body builder physique. Just want to fill a shirt out better, if that makes sense. So any advice or help is more than welcome.

That makes too much sense. You kind of killed it for me. It's much more fun believing that our phones are reading our minds.

I am 34 years old. 170 pounds, the most I have ever weight in my life. My body really is not terrible. But I'm starting to get a bit of a belly, and I just want to be in better shape overall. I used to go to the gym in my early twenties with a guy that actually knew what he was doing. An aspiring power lifter, but that only lasted a few months. I'm not looking to get jacked and body builder level. Just stronger and even out some. I have already bought and built a decent home gym in my spare room, but I need some kind of plan. I'm not asking for a full time physical trainer for free. Just a good outline on exercises that I can follow. Maybe suggestions on things to add to my home gym. Just to add, at the moment I am mostly skipping leg day. My job is pretty much carrying a eighty plus pound tool bag up and down stairs all night. My legs are fine at the moment. But as I build upper body I will work on them more to keep even. So ask any questions you need and I will answer and any help is appreciated.

I'm putting this in general discussion. Because I think it may also fall into fetish category or fitness, or other. I will explain as I go I guess. Ok, I'm not a big person. I'm roughly 160 pounds at the moment. I have decided to start back weight lifting. I was into it several years back when I had a good buddy that went with me. More on that in a moment. I have turned my spare room into a gym. I would greatly appreciate any help with getting into shape. Which, to be fair I'm not bad. But I want to fill out a bit better. Now to the fetish part. Because I used to go to the gym with a powerlifter build gay dude. Working out immediately turns into a sexual thing for me. Right now I just have porn playing while I lift. I don't get hard or anything but it seems like it works better than music to put me in a work out mood. I'm wondering if anybody else does the same? Now back to the giant gay powerlifter. I did not know he was gay at the time. Just a good friend. But when he spotted me and I was laid back on a bench looking up his shorts. I was usually able to push a bit more weight. He came out to me later on but because life sucks sometimes, I missed out on a great opportunity. So the point of this is. I want to get back in shape. Any fitness people on here? I also have a bit of a gym fetish that I want to get back into.

Sadly no. Just a random thought that my phone was listening in on.

A bit random, but I'm going with the theme here. I was driving down a road I have not been on in a long time. I used to go down this road riding the school bus. I drove past a house that it used to stop at and remembered one of the kids that road the bus. Let's just say his name was Allen. I haven't thought about Allen or spoke to Allen in years. He was kind of in a different age group and not like one of my best friends or anything. But I knew him. I wondered what Allen was up to these days. I got to where I was going and looked at my phone. I pulled up Facebook and Allen was the very first person on my recommended friend list. All this happened within fifteen minutes. I have never spoken about Allen or tried to find him on FB. Again, the only reason I remembered Allen was because I drove past his childhood home. I believe in coincidence. But this was a little scary. Seriously, it's been about twenty years since I have seen or thought about this person.

So, Is piss a pretty normal fetish for gay guys? I have been turned on by it for as long as I can remember. Sadly only one of the guys I have been with shared my fetish. I still don't really understand it. By this point I really don't care. I like it and that's good enough for me. And just by posting this feels like a coming out for me. I really haven't told many people that I like men or piss. So. Hi I'm Saint, I'm gay and have a piss fetish that I don't understand.

Just scrolling through different things here and this one caught my eye. I have always been an avid reader. Almost have the Harry Potter books memorized because they came out when I was in the perfect age group. But my all time favorites that I can reread at any given time. Hatchet (and the sequels) by Gary Paulsen, My Side of the Mountain by Jean Craighead George, and The Little House on the Prairie series, are hands down my favorite. I have always been an outside person and you can actually learn a lot from those books. Knowing how to live without electricity and internet. A skill that is very quickly going away. Hell, It's hard enough to find somebody under forty that can drive a manual transmission truck. Much less find one that can train a peregrine falcon to hunt to provide food to survive. Disclaimer: I'm not saying I can train an apex winged predator to hunt for me. But I have read about it. So in a pinch, I'm your best bet. Or we are going to learn to be vegetarians real quick.

If I'm not anything else. I'm an honest person.

I lurked around for a week or so. I have always been apart of forums. I even used to run my own forum years ago. I know some places are super strict with how they post and not searching before creating topics ect. I kind of started in the beginning of the forum ages and left for a long while. Hell, even before I made my introduction post I asked a mod if there was a specific thread I should do it on because I couldn't find one. I know all places are different, I just wanted to come in correctly.

You seem like somebody I would like to have a conversation with. I have been with the FD since I was 18. I have advanced emergency medical training, special training for industrial plant fires. Such as boilers and places with massive amounts of oil or chemicals. Search and rescue, and also work with the local PD for training. I'm not part of the PD but they asked me to volunteer to help train new officers on how to conduct field sobriety tests. By that I mean they paid for my drinks I got lit and let them practice on me. I volunteer every year now. With all that in mind, my favorite part of what I do is blowing the horn on the fire trucks. It never gets old.

Hi, I'm SaintV. Most people call me Saint. I am an industrial engineer, A first responder with the fire dept, and a closeted gay man. I am 34 years old and kind of new to this, so please cut me some slack. I have been looking for a place to talk openly about myself and maybe meet some like minded individuals. I have read through a bit and am trying to integrate myself into this forum. Don't know much else to say, but just wanted to introduce myself.