I don’t care what an escort does in his private life as long as he fulfills what I want. Also, me and my husband (who is a top) hire together so guys who can really top and bottom in a session are *chef’s kiss.”
I’ve seen members here question the masculinity of providers as if there’s some authentic masculinity. There isn’t. It’s all a performance that we learn growing up and some of us then lean more into what feels “natural” to us.
I regularly see three masseurs who aren’t licensed, and I’ve had nothing but great experiences. Why? Because I curate the session by speaking up about what I want and where I need the work. Just lying there in silence and then leaving a lukewarm review? That’s on the client, not the masseur.
If your masseur is working your calves or thighs—let them. And when they hit the perfect rhythm, like playing the fiddle just right, say something. Tell them, “Keep doing that, I love it.” Don’t let them move on until you’re ready. That’s just common sense—and no license can substitute for clear communication.
I see a lot of hate directed at masseurs here, but honestly, most of it comes from clients who don’t speak up. From the masseur’s side, they’re considering things like whether you’re on blood thinners, if you bruise easily, or if going deep into your glutes might trigger a sciatic flare-up.
Bottom line: if you want a great massage, be present and vocal throughout the session. That’s how you get exactly what you came for.
