Sometimes, just getting off is ALL that is needed, however, I personally cant perform unless I am comfortable with a guy. Sure I can put his dick in my mouth and suck, but I cant get truly aroused unless there is some sort of comfort level or familiarity with the person. And I would tend to think that first time sex is usually not the best ? It gets better the more you get to know the person, and what makes them tick... But dont get me wrong, I aint preachin here. My kneepads are worn out from my backroom sex club performances (pre-Covid) , but most of the time I was simply going thru the motions. Cut me some slack guys, I will be 70 this year, so my time is running out ! ?