I dont really wish to "pile on". But I have to agree with Mr. Nicholas. Merely because this is not your career doesn't mean that you can't be business like about it. If you want to meet, say "yes" and follow through. If you dont want to meet say "no". It really isn't that hard.
I had an experience similar to Harlow's with Hogan. I too contacted him two to three weeks in advance to arrange to meet him for an overnight in Dallas. I also made it quite clear that I was traveling to Dallas expressly to meet up with him. Initially we arranged to meet at about 7 pm so that we could have a nice dinner then an evening of fun. At about 4 pm he informed me that he had other plans which he had forgotten about and couldn't meet until about 10:30. I was not happy, but agreed nonetheless. At 9 pm he texted me and informed me that he couldn't meet up at all that night, but we could meet early the next morning. Again, not happy but we arranged to meet at 8 am the following day. I gave him all of the info regarding the hotel in which I was staying. As one would guess, 8 am came and went with no contact from him and no response to my texts. At about 9:30 am he texted me telling me that he had been waiting in the lobby of the hotel, tried to contact me but received no response. So, he left. Clearly bullshit, but by that point I was tired of dealing with him. So, I simply agreed that things did not work out and wished him luck.
He may be beautiful, but when I see his profile I now regard it as I would one of the many "European fakes" that appear on RM.......way too good to be true. Unlike the RM scammers he may be real, but if you can never actually meet him, then what is the difference?