Dingdi

I usually don’t believe someone who is not patient to answer a sentence may provide real service.

Today, I received a WhatsApp message from my regular provider. I hired him as escort in the past six months more or less every two or three weeks. His message was obviously intended to send to another client, to say he couldn’t come today and explained the reason. It happens we may select contact by mistake from the list to send message. I just reminded him he sent it to the wrong person. Surprisingly he didn’t recognize who I am. He replied “ You are not xxx?” (A girl name. He said he never serves female clients) We had a lot of conversations during the past six months through WhatsApp. The latest one was even just 6 days ago to schedule the next session. It seems that he had never saved my number in his contact. And he cleared out all previous messages records between us. Even my profile photo (not my portrait) also didn’t recall who I am. I was really surprised, disappointed, upset and finally a little bit angry. I had some feelings for him since the first met and he knows that. We agreed just to keep a relationship between a client and a friend. I actually don’t think of him just as a service provider. During sex, I do something that I’m not very into just for him as I know he enjoys. I know he is not into me. However he made me feel that I’m a little bit special from other clients. In February he had a break. He said he was too tired. All his ads got off-line but he still received me. We met three times in two weeks. He shared his family album. He even hung out with me off clock. I understand his appreciation for me was supposed to be acting. He is just doing a job. While, It’s really painful to realize how little I matter to him. I don’t know if it’s a little bit overacting to stop seeing him. He still doesn’t realize that number is mine. So if I don’t say anything, there will be no any connection anymore. Or should ask him directly what happened and get an excuse to book him as before.

Thank you for all of your sharing and suggestions. I’m pretty much relieved. I’m really not a fan of Michelin star restaurants or molecular cuisine.

Planning to have a lunch with an escort for the first time. A little bit hesitant when it comes to choosing restaurant. When you dine out with providers, what level of restaurant do you go? I know a high end restaurant with experience wine won’t be wrong. What about those regular ones with good vibes? Same question for hotel selection. Do providers usually expect everything treated to be luxury? Will I be looked down on if what I offered is just moderate? Looking forward to your voice.

Would like to shake hands with you. For sure the providers we talked about don’t want to spend extra time. It makes sense and I totally understand. I have many clients, in other industry, too. Some of them are really nice. Always pleasant to do business with them but that’s it. It’s better they don’t contact me except placing order. However it’s still upsetting to find out that in his business WhatsApp, each time I check, his last online time is always in 1-2 hours while my message is ignored for one day. Did you propose to hang out with him? You paid the same rate as in bed?

I should not but unfortunately I do🤣

That’s pretty true!

You are lucky your “lovers” respond actively.

Did they ever initiate the conversation?

Those warm receptionists sometimes look surprised and ask if there is anything wrong. Airbnb with self check-in/check-out is a better option I think.

I’m curious about relationships between clients and their regular providers. Do you often chat out of “business” hours? Do you do any other non sexual activities together? (A fine dinning before going to bed is not included here. I think it’s a kind of foreplay. ) My story. I meet this escort around every two or three weeks if he is in town. During our meeting, talks and interactions have always been good. I sometimes try to talk with him by WhatsApp. My messages are always replied but long time delay although it shows he is online. Of course it’s a polite way to say “shut up”. It makes sense no one is obliged to “work” over time. So I don’t contact him unless to schedule meeting time. Confusingly, he sometimes also reaches me out asking how you are doing or have a nice weekend. When I reply there is always another longtime silence. I guess maybe all his regular clients received same message at that time. Before I ask him directly someday or never, I’d like to hear your experience.

If a provider lists his position as “more top”, it seems to say bottoming is negotiable but you may pay more? I know this question can be asked directly to the provider, like most of topics in this board, still would like to hear you. Thanks.

Did you pay as same as in bed?

My fresh experience last day in the provider’s apartment. When we were kissing on the living room couch, his roommate and roommate’s friend came in. They were also surprised. The provider jumped up and talked something to them. (I don’t understand their language.) And then they came to shack hand with me. Finally we moved to the bedroom and went on. I was feeling so embarrassed.

You mean he may want more money than agreed? He may embarrasse me in front of my business partner?🫣