ApexNomad

Time’s a luxury we all can’t afford to waste, so why keep engaging with someone who doesn’t seem to value it? It’s like giving your energy to something that’s never going to give back.

Why? I believe there are psychological and fantasy-driven elements as to why some clients seek out “straight” providers. 
There’s a perception (whether accurate or not) that straight men embody a more traditional, unfiltered masculinity. Some clients may see that as more attractive or dominant.
There’s the taboo factor. The idea of “turning” a straight guy, or at least being desirable enough to make him cross a boundary, is a common fantasy. It plays into power dynamics and the thrill of the forbidden.
There’s the ego boost and validation. Some clients may feel more validated if they can attract or seduce a straight man, as if it confirms their own desirability.
I would surmise that for some clients, straight providers may bring a different vibe compared to openly gay providers, sometimes less performative or more detached, which can be appealing to certain clients. (Though I’ve had a few “gay” providers that were equally detached.)
Clients who seek out straight providers may also do so to prevent any potential for emotional connection. 

The term “Daddy” can mean different things depending on the context and the person using it, but it generally refers to an older, more mature individual who exudes confidence, stability, and a nurturing or protective demeanor. For some, it’s about physical attraction to someone older and more experienced, often tied to a sense of security or wisdom. For others, it may carry a financial undertone, where the dynamic involves a desire for support or being taken care of materially.
When younger people say they prefer “Daddy types,” it could be purely complimentary, signaling admiration for qualities like maturity, charisma, or life experience. On the other hand, it might hint at a relationship dynamic they’re seeking, whether emotional, psychological, or financial.
The term “Daddy Issues” usually refers to unresolved feelings or patterns stemming from someone’s relationship with their father, which might influence their preferences or attachments in adulthood. But it’s important to remember that not everyone attracted to “Daddy types” fits this stereotype—sometimes, it’s just a genuine preference!
Ultimately, it’s a spectrum, as you said, and context matters. If someone seems sincere, they probably are. And if their interest feels transactional, well, at least they’re being clear about it! Nothing wrong with cutting through the posturing and having an honest conversation to figure out where you both stand.

It sounds like you genuinely enjoyed the time you spent together, and it’s understandable that you’re reflecting on the dynamic now that communication has shifted. Relationships with escorts can sometimes blur lines between professional and personal, especially when there’s genuine warmth and connection during your time together. However, it’s also important to remember that their friendliness is part of the service they provide, and they may have personal boundaries about communication outside of arrangements for work.
The change in communication likely isn’t about you doing something “wrong” but more about him setting professional boundaries, either intentionally or because he’s managing his own time and energy. Escorts often interact with many clients and may choose to keep communication primarily focused on scheduling.
To move forward and if you want to hire again, you could say something like:
“Hi [Name], I just wanted to check in and see if you’re open to planning another trip or meeting sometime soon. If you’d prefer to keep our communication strictly about arrangements, I completely understand and will respect that.”
This approach acknowledges his boundaries while keeping the door open for future interactions. It also signals that you respect his time and space, which is likely to be appreciated. If he doesn’t respond, it may be best to let it go and not take it personally.
More than anything, try not to second-guess yourself or overanalyze the past. The connection you shared was genuine, but it’s important to remember that his distancing likely isn’t about something you did wrong. It’s more about his own preferences or boundaries, and that doesn’t diminish the value of the time you spent together. Focus on what made the experience special for you, rather than seeking definitive answers about his current behavior.