Funny you should ask
I just got such a request this evening. My username is similar on RM. So I’m instantly suspicious of someone who contacts me there rather than here. In this case, the client profile had 61 reviews (all on 1/15/26), 61,000+ profile reviews over 10+ yrs, and a profile age of 28 So, I’m suspicious and I contacted the provider to let him know before I respond.
Like you, I’d never discuss rates but I’d also not discuss other details either since different chemistries lead to different experiences
I did have someone contact me a couple months ago Asked for info on a provider I’d reviewed in Chicago. Was way too forthcoming with personal info and even shared his cell #…I looked him up on MrNumber and saw a number of red flags and then warned all the providers he’d asked about
Just be honest with him and lay it out like you did in the last paragraph - time for a break, if you're in town - let you know, but other than that - you're needing something more.
As I'm generally a weekend scheduler, I know that each planned encounter costs a small fortune with planes, hotels, etc. There are other guys you can fly in.
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