Hi all, I'm hoping this is an ok place for me to post a couple of questions that I didn't see when I searched and backread.
A little about me for context: I'm middle-aged and recently came out as a trans guy. Sometimes, you don't know what you don't know...My partner and I have been married and monogamous for many years, but our sexualities aren't compatible anymore; he's a cishetero man and I'm a gay transmasc. After a lot of counseling, we're staying together and supporting each other in finding sexual fulfillment, wherever that leads. For me, initially, a professional seems like a good idea; I have mixed emotions about the situation, not to mention some real anxiety for a lot of reasons (yay, being raised super-Catholic), and the potential to focus on physical pleasure rather than a potential relationship sounds very appealing.
I've read at least one thread that included a couple of people saying they struggled with their feelings afterward. I'm curious about what emotions people experienced after their first time, if anyone's willing to share, especially if there are other folks who have come to this feeling a little bittersweet? I suspect I'll be all over the place and am trying to prepare mentally so I don't freak out if I'm, well, freaking out the next day, etc.
And then the obvious next question, for providers who might be on here: I plan to be up front about being trans. I'm looking at some fellow transmascs first, but I would really like to get more experience with cis men as well. I figure some providers will pass, and that's fine. But wondering if it's even realistic for me to approach folks at all/if there are other transmascs on sites like rentmen?
Thanks in advance for any advice you're willing to share
