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If this isn't the appropriate forum, please feel free to move my question elsewhere. I've seen discussions on this but more about avoiding it, but it's happening and I need to do something. I posted about the provider the other day - the gist is I hired him a few times, wasn't a great experience, so I left him alone but he kept texting/messaging me. I finally told him I couldn't pay anymore because of financial issues. At which point he said he had a good time, so "let's do it anyway." Well, the day after that meeting he sent me a payment request via Venmo. When I reminded him, he said he didn't remember me telling him that, and that he was probably drunk. (I have our entire communication history on my phone, it's all there clear as day, but he's not interested.) But anyway, he's demanding payment and it's getting more threatening by the day. I blocked his number but he seems to be using every phone he can get a hand on to message me. He's threatened to go to my workplace. He has sent me screenshots of colleagues contact into that he's found online. He, or someone with him, has posted NextDoor postings that look like nothing to someone else, but are clearly veiled threats of physical violence, showing up at my house, etc. I'm at a point, I think, where I have to go to police. Has anybody ever done that? Is it a terrible idea? Would I be throwing myself to the wolves along with him? I did, believe it or not, get RM to take his profile off. I told them my workplace where he keeps saying he's coming is a school. Bring it on dumbass - he'll find himself surrounded by 3 resource officers with weapons drawn. I said to RM that then there'll be news reports - you want to see his profile from your site on the evening news? Then they'll shut you down and you'll cost all these good people their jobs. An hour later, I got a very nice letter apologizing for leaving it up and telling me it's been removed. But I digress...I still need some good, practical advice here. I'll probably head to a police station after work this afternoon to make a report - unless y'all think that's a terrible idea. Thoughts? Next steps? Is the cops a bad idea? I'd of course prefer not to go to jail myself. Thanks, all.

Thanks for posting the question. I wish I’d read it 6 months ago. I’m fairly new at being a client (about a year and a half), but my preconceived notions about what the providers would be like was far from accurate. I didn’t think they’d be jerks, but I didn’t really expect to find them so likable either (which was crappy of me). Not my wheelhouse - but I suspect that to be successful at being a provider, you have to care enough about the people who hire you, and be kind and empathetic enough to tap into what they want and need, so they have a good time and come back to you. In other words, to be good at it, you have to be a good guy. I had a bad experience, and I’m glad he wasn’t my first or I wouldn’t have done it again, but I’ve also met some good men. So I hope it’s possible to be friends, if the opportunity presents. The provider who has become my regular is a good guy, we have some stuff in common, and we like doing things together. We’ve had VERY open conversation about what has to happen for any friendship to work (partly because he watched me get burned), and we seem to agree that the communication is key, but also ground rules, because he has a living to earn and I respect that. Right now, the current agreement is that if he initiates getting together, regardless of what occurs or doesn’t, it’s social. If I initiate, it’s business, at the going rate for his time. If there’s an exception, it’s clearly made and agreed upon when the invitation happens. He tends to be generous, and I’ve had to say a couple of times “no, it’s been x hours, so that’s not enough.” I’m trying to be conscientious about that. It seems to be working.

I’ve been that guy who fell hard for a provider, but after several sessions, not just one. It’s not so much a loneliness thing or something unattractive guys do (I don’t think I’m either). I think for some of us that level of intimacy just inspires an emotional bond. I have to be pretty careful to reign it in. Try to be nice to him - among other things, it can be embarrassing when you realize it.

Here’s a 411: I spent this morning dodging threatening texts from RamseyRamsey. Full-on extortion. Demanding money and sending screenshots of contact info for people I work with. Reported it to RM and they did nothing. I had to delete my RM profile today. I honestly think he’s going to call my employer. And I’ll be pressing charges.

I really like him in film, so jumped at it when I saw him visiting dc. Great guy, great time all round. He took a break for a few months but back to escorting now. He’s pretty ripped now, too.

I met him this summer in DC. So awesome, erotic and sexy af. And…um…huge. Very comfortable to be around. And the massage after was great too.

I met him last December. 4 times, 2 overnights since then. It’s been great every time. I could fall in love with him!