I understand your point. I mention this fetish to the escort before the appointment. And usually to a guy whom I have worked with before, so he knows me already. The guy can say yes or no, I respect that. However, I am seeking to get a certain fetish played out. So I would move on to someone who is comfortable with it or better still, gets excited about it. Luckily, I live in NYC with plenty of escorts to choose from. If I lived in a smaller market, it would be different.