chalk it up as a learning experience & do not contact the provider
next time you want to spend $3k+ on an extended date, go to Barcelona for a long weekend (it’s doable) and you’ll have your pick of handsome providers from around the world. There’s no place else that offers relative security/safety and has the variety of providers at reasonable rates.
as a US domestic alternative- hourly only & anywhere but New York City
I wouldn’t do anything with a provider before sex that may impair his performance - no food, alcohol or anything else. I save the small-talk for after, even if I know him. In multi-hour appointments, I look for fireworks in Hour 1. I don’t like overnights, so 3 hours is my max. I wouldn’t ever travel for a specific provider bc it’s too much expectation tied up in one person - I’d suggest selecting a destination based on volume of providers & ease of hiring for better opportunities.
get back in the saddle asap !
