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I firmly believe that very few people are 100% straight or gay. What straight man has never made a sideways glance at the urinals and had a fleeting thought of … but that fleeting thought can be very disconcerting to some and they act out in many different ways. I did not come out until late in life and I am so thankful for the support of my “straight” friends while I have had mixed reception from my “gay” friends. Part of that is our own feelings about those “wasted” years in the friendship. Also, it sounds like there was hurt in the past from how from how this giy struggled (probably unconsciously) with his own sexuality. Even though your friendship to a hiatus, I hope you can find a future in some capacity with this guy.

I am a fairly recent widower after a 39 year relationship who is now ready to “put myself out there” and date again. The problem is that the last time I asked someone on a date was in the 1980’s when we picked up the landline (gasp), called someone we had met (usually) and asked if they wanted to go to dinner and/or a movie. How should I ask a guy out in the 21st century? Text? Email? Call? Leave my number in a bathroom stall? Or should I just expect a life of random hookups from Grindr?

Heading to NOLA for some R&R. Any suggestions? Love a good massage but has been a few years since I’ve had one in NOLA.

I’ve often wanted to go to an underwear night at a gay bar but have always worried about checking my clothes. What do I keep with me? And, how? My jockstrap doesn’t have pockets!

Have attended a few meeting of Capitol Bate Club in DC. All they use is Albolene. Facilitated a LOT of stroking. Boy Butter is my personal favorite.

I’m heading to New Orleans for Southern Decadence—66 years old and a first-timer. Looking for advice—what to do; what not to do; where to go; where not to go. Looking for the collective wisdom of the group! Thanks.

Anyone have a favorite for massage in the DC metro area? I will be in Arlington the first part of the week then in DuPont area. I do enjoy the therapeutic part of the massage but definitely want to finish with a smile on my face.

Yes, it has closed. A great loss to the community. And the Country Club is no longer clothing optional. What’s the city cumming to???

Decide on what you really want to experience. If it is the parades, then definitely uptown. If it is the gay bar scene, then the Quarter or Marigny. I like the Bourbon Orleans, right next to some of the more popular gay bars in the quarter; however, they REALLY jack up the prices during Mardi Gras. Hotel Saint Marie is another one of my favorites and is less expensive.

I agree totally. A sensual/erotic massage, if done right, is a journey of learning the intimacy of seduction of ourselves that can then translate into our seduction of another. I recently had a massage during which the masseur remained fully clothed, including his baseball cap. Initially, I was ticked at him but decided to go with it. Instead of thinking about his body, I was able to fully immerse myself in the experience of what his hands were doing to my body. What started out as “not ideal” in my narrow minded perception culminated in the happiest ending I have had in years. I will definitely be using certain “touches” that I enjoyed from him as I seduce my future lovers in what I hope to be mutual ecstatic endings.

I’ve heard mixed reviews of Crew Club in DC. Understand they finally fixed the sauna after several months. Anybody have a recent experience there?

Anyone you’ve had a great experience with in DC? I’ve had varying experiences there so looking to the collective wisdom of the group to give me guidance. Send me a DM.

Going to DC soon and always love a good massage to ease the stress of travel. Anyone have experience with JohnSaints? Reviews on RentMasseur seem almost too good to be true but there are a lot of them! Thanks for the help, guys!

Can’t wait to see Biden on the pole! 🤣

Will be in the DC area soon for a meeting. I understand Secrets closed. Any other male strip clubs in the area? Any other “should not miss spots” or fun suggestions?

I have brought this up with only one friend along with my penchant for erotic massages. He condemns both as hiring sex workers. Of course I live in a conservative state where even gay men fart red gas. 🤦🏻 Has made me shy about brining up the subject with anyone else.

Heading to Dallas soon. Any info on Simon? https://rentmasseur.com/SimonSuraci

Living in the very “liberal” state of Mississippi, I have to travel to get the “type” of massage that I enjoy. Any personal recs in New Orleans, Dallas, Memphis, Atlanta or surrounding?

I have used Rent Masseur for some time and have gotten the spectrum to no touching except during the erotic part to sucking/kissing to surprise fucking at the end. It is very appropriate to understand expectations/boundaries before the massage starts. With only a few exceptions, these guys know how to give a good massage. If you are looking for relaxation/working out the kinks with a bit extra at the end, this is the site for you.

Peppermint ice cream topped with chocolate Magic Shell. It’s all in the topping.