Andy768

Thank you for sharing your story and feelings. I appreciate your willingness to be vulnerable in that way. And actually I admire your ability to fall for someone and dream! My stone cold heart wouldn't let me even if I wanted to.

To quote the great professor Charles Xavier: Mutant... Mutant... I feel your pain. Let me help you: In order for you to heal, you must forget. It's kind of a joke, but it's also not. I get it. But I think you just have to let it go (i.e., let him go). 💔

For me, outside of bathing (but even sometimes within that context of course), being naked feels sexual. So I've never been able to participate in "platonic" nudism. Perhaps some of this is generational; I think locker room nudity and communal showering became less and less common during the life of millennials, and then Gen Z seems to be even more of a "never nude" generation.

I like these #s. This makes sense, doesn't it? For those who struggled, graduation is a real accomplishment and ought to be celebrated, shouldn't it? For those for whom it was more of a foregone conclusion:

As a total introvert, I could never pull this off myself, but I love the idea and it would absolutely give me a warm and friendly first impression if a guy did this to me. (But I'm not a provider so perhaps I shouldn't be chiming in, but I just really loved this!)

Thanks for sharing! I started listening to his interview with Legrand Wolf, who is actually a very thoughtful and intelligent guy with an interesting backstory.

Wow, these truly are horror stories. Thank you for sharing but sorry you had to experience them

Desperate or not, it is frightening how anyone could be so seemingly cavalier about murdering a human being.

Were your frightened would-be friends in the buff? I think I read someone's experience that it's maybe 50-50 in terms of guests who will opt for no clothes and those who will cover themselves - is this what others have experienced as well?

I love George.

Shelton showing good trajectory! Congrats to Sitsy on taking the title! After wins over Zverev, Sinner, and Ruud, he must be feeling peachy! 🍑😉

I can't think of a movie I walked out on, but I thought Twilight was just ridiculous. When it was revealed that his skin sparkles in the sun, I couldn't help but laugh - it just seemed like one unintentional absurdity after another. I turned to my companion and apologized for inviting her. It remains my standard for bad movies - like, was it just bad or was it Twilight-level bad?

Thanks for trying to clarify - I realize now how poorly I posed my question. I was actually wondering about running into any acquaintance (not necessarily a provider) at a place where you might quite literally be caught with your pants down. For context - I've never been to a clothing-optional resort, but the thought of running into a work colleague or someone in my field at one is pretty horrific to me. Of course I'd get over it, but I know it would be really uncomfortable. When I was a student, there were two times I ran into professors when I'd rather not have. Once was at the YMCA pool and I think we were both very deliberately timing our workouts to avoid being in the open showers and locker room changing area at the same time. Another was in class - realizing that I'd hooked up with the professor sometime (months? years?) earlier. We had to have a one-on-one meeting in his office at some point for the course, and it was a huge elephant in the room that neither of us acknowledged. It was painful enough to go through that as a student; really don't want to have a similar experience as a fully grown man. By the way, I've appreciated reading people's takes and stories even if they were more geared toward encountering providers, so thanks for sharing!

I wasn't very interested either. But I'm not very interested in many things others love, like football and traveling. And I have interests that others couldn't care less about. So to each his own - glad some of you gentlemen enjoyed it!

I've read a couple threads sharing stories and tips for when men have run into providers in public. Has anyone happened to run into a personal or business acquaintance at a resort/club/cruise? The thought of this makes me nervous - I'm the absolute worst at playing it cool and smooth in awkward situations - but I've been trying to embrace more of a YOLO mindset lately.

Well, I just imagine that if I were a trans woman and someone referred to me as a "mediocre male athlete competing as a woman," I think I would feel like they're trying to jab/ridicule me and my identity as much as (if not more so) than make an argument about fairness in sports. Of course Navratilova - who is a legend whom I respect immensely - has the right to express herself however she chooses. I just think when there's a choice, why not choose kindness? Identity issues can be tough for anyone; I say this as a cis man. So, I mean, just being respectful of other people's struggles by not ridiculing them doesn't seem like too big an ask to me. And I do think there can be a point at which there's too much walking on eggshells, but that doesn't mean we forgo basic etiquette.

I think it's possible to question the fairness of trans-women competing in sports (and possibly other arenas) against cis-women without crossing the line into ridiculing transgender people - which unfortunately I think Navratilova has done.

I was pulling for Yuma Kagiyama because I LOVE his overall skating (and he's cute as a button), but hats off to Malinin. There was just no beating him yesterday - it really was a fantastic, history-making skate. Also thrilled that Kaori Sakamoto three-peated! This was a fun and exciting Worlds overall!

Fun story - thanks for sharing! I go to an open gym session where some of the guys will go shirtless, and there's one guy in particular with the most incredibly built and toned body... I feel like I can't even look his way, though, because if I dare to sneak a glance I will just STARE. So I feel like I'm constantly averting my eyes - and sometimes it feels almost like he's aware of it and purposely trying to do things next to me. It's like floating a pizza in front of someone who's trying to diet. There's a part of me that loves it and a part of me that's like, "Would you PLEASE just leave me alone?!"

I'm planning a solo trip during which I'd like to lay out in the sun a bit, and I"m wondering how others who travel alone deal with the pesky issue of getting sunblock on the back. If at a resort, is this something a staff member could be asked to do (or is that against the rules)? If at a resort with mostly couples, is it poor etiquette to ask a man who is coupled to help you out? Or do you just figure out a way to do it yourself with some combo of reach around and/or applying to towel/spatula/some such contraption?

I love to have peanut buttery cereal of any kind as an indulgence too - almost always reserved for when it is on sale! They seem to have peanut butter chex on sale every so often at my local grocery store, so that's become a favorite. I can eat the whole box in a sitting, though, so I have to be careful!

Yes, I am quoting myself. Carota delivers! What a comeback!

For me, there has been a distinct difference in the general feeling around Liz Magill and Claudine Gay. I think you could argue that they both "couldn't navigate a delicate situation." But only one of them seemed to be questioned regarding whether she ever deserved the position to begin with. Maybe I missed it, but I didn't get a general sense that people doubted whether Magill ever should've been president in the first place. It just seems to me like Magill's failure was "allowed" to be "she made mistakes" without question on whether she was qualified to be president, whereas Gay has been less "she made mistakes" and more "she was a diversity hire."

Team Carota.