cautious

Yes, of course this goes without saying. If I’d need to pretend to be someone else to prompt a response, I’m not interested in the response. My ego has already taken a hit - no need to open it up for another blow. I’m grieving the “loss” and if he ever reaches out, I’ll cross the bridge when it comes, but I don’t intend to reach out again beyond what I did earlier in the week.

At least knowing what to expect and the reasons may help set expectations. It would at least for me.

Ok. This one makes me feel so much better that is not me. Not just me. When he reappears, does he ever offer any kind of explanation; do you request one?

So in writing today, I was partly expecting a barrage of “if you can’t play the game properly, get out!” replies, so I can’t thank you enough for the supportive comments and valid questions. What’s helped the most is hearing that it has happened, without obvious reason, to others so it’s not just me sitting here racking my brain about what I could have done. Given what I’ve seen of him, he prob has a lot going on in his real life. And maybe because he’d talk to me about it, our meetings were too taxing vs with others. Not my fault. Not his. Just prob can’t continue. (Though it would be nice to have had that communicated). Thanks everyone.

Yes I’ve definitely wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. The issue is he flaked on a scheduled meeting 15 mins before and asked to move it to the next day (but didn’t confirm a time), when I reached out that day to confirm the time he then asked to push it one more day. Then radio silence when I tried to confirm a time. All in all 48 hours of silence doesn’t seem like too much and he could have things going on, but when we’re trying to reschedule (at his request) he rarely lets more than an hour or two pass. And now that I’ve sent the “hope everything is okay, if it’s not, I’d appreciate the feedback” without a response, I’m not hopeful that it’s just a misunderstanding. I also notice he’s logged into Rentmen, so it’s doubtful he’s dead. And to someone’s later point, while I’d breathe easier if I do hear back, unless there’s a compelling reason, I think the bond is probably broken.

You’re both very right. Honestly, when I first hired this guy, I was in a fantastic place. Now not so much, so for sure I’m on a hiatus.

I’m married, generally happily, but definitely lacking in the intimacy department. I thought hiring was the fool proof, drama free method - pay a fee, know what to expect - no rejection or disappointment. Unfortunately as I’ve learned (and I’m sure countless others have as well), it’s not fool proof. When it works it’s great, but you can still experience disappointment and rejection.

I’ll start by saying I know this board in general can be very helpful but also pretty harsh at times, so go easy on me, please After a few really bad experiences hiring over the years I recently hired a well reviewed escort and for the last 2+ months have had great experiences. I hired for education/fulfilling needs that aren’t met by my partner but we also ended up having a few get togethers that were more about talking and sharing points of view. It has always seemed mutually enjoyable and I think I’ve been fairly generous in terms of tipping/gifting and always booking multi hour appointments. We spoke about potential future travel (he considered it and said he was excited) and recently, the hire offered to be my (paid) personal trainer as well and seemed quite excited about broadening his skill set. I know, from another thread on here that some see this as dangerous but we both seemed realistic about this being a different dynamic than our escorting time. After any session there were often kind messages of thanks sent to me and the occasional ask/well wishes sent my way. I enjoyed that but also realize it could just be great “customer relationship management”, though it seemed genuine. To wrap this up, after two last enjoyable meetings last week (one training, one physical) and him reaching out to schedule more, I’ve found myself being cancelled on a few days in a row and then ghosted . I know I already clearly broke the cardinal rule of not getting attached or else I wouldn’t be bothered by this (I get it, I really do!) but I think I was pretty fair and, while open and vulnerable with him (as he was with me), respectful of our dynamic and not crossing lines. I sent the “thanks for everything and would appreciate knowing what went wrong” message and will not reach out again, but is this common to ghost a client who had rapidly become a regular? I guess in absence of clarity from him maybe one of you may have insights into the psyche of what could have gone wrong here. It’s been harder on me than it should, so don’t worry I’m already beating myself up - I know I shouldn’t have gotten attached.

I’ve recently begun hiring a guy that I’d very much like to travel with but my embarrassment over my loud snoring is a barrier. My solution is that when I do plan the trip, I’ll get us separate, but adjoining, rooms for the sleeping portion. It also gives him some personal space should he need it. His reply when I brought it up was “well, you never know, we could end up falling asleep just cuddling on the couch” which just reinforced that I’ve picked the right one to travel with.

What an eye opening thread - while I limit personally identifying details, I’ve found the PMs to be most valuable in helping me dodge bullets, and I hope in a few cases I’ve helped others with the same. In my experience I’ve gotten far more honest (candid) feedback about potential hires in PM than the forum or reviews. A good lesson in additional caution. Thanks for sharing.

@othermanc how did the meeting go?

Between this and the recent thread on Matheus in Toronto... it seems Toronto has a fake review problem. Someone’s taking advantage of our trusting Canadian nature.

Hiring for me has always been about experiencing a fantasy and certain activities that I am lacking in my home life, so it’s never been a consideration (until recently) for me to hire for any time outside of the bedroom. However I know that it’s not uncommon for some to hire simply for companionship or non intimate connections. So here’s my question for the escorts, what have been your most memorable or enjoyable dates with clients that have been non-sexual or had non-sexual elements? Are there times where it almost doesn’t feel like “work”?

Finally. I actually thought I was going crazy after I met with him and felt that he was either a different person or that the photos were a decade old. I even entertained the thought that a potential “real” Matheus may have been too busy and outsourced me to someone else. But yet he gets so many positive reviews everywhere. Glad to hear I’m not totally nuts. (And just to preempt any concerns, it was not just the photos that were false advertising, and yes, I did submit an official review)

It's been a while since this thread was started... bumping this to see if anyone has had any experience with Shawn recently? He's also now promoting duo experiences with 'Blake'. Anyone been with either? Here are the recent listings: http://www.m2mtouch.com/duo-touch.html https://rentmasseur.com/Shawn

Reviving this thread... anyone else take the plunge and give JJ a try?

My apologies if I've missed previous posts on the same subject... but is anyone familiar with Adonis Spa in Toronto: http://adonisspa.ca/ Any reviews would be appreciated!