A holiday Wish

[jackhammer91406]

This time of year is often tough on single people. We are bombarded with images of family, holiday and good cheer.

 

Even more, in this time of war on so many fronts, from Iraq to the great moral divide in our own country, it’s hard to focus on what’s really important.

 

I have spent a lot of time lately watching TV. One movie in particular, had a re-occurring theme about if we couldn’t be honest at this time of year, then there is never a time to be honest. I don’t know about that philosophy, but it got me to thinking.

 

I came to this site by chance as I guess most of us did. At first, I was a lurker, not really being up to date on what a message center is or how to use one effectively. I guess that maybe helped me a bit, because it was at a time where I was just beginning to reach out of my self imposed life of a hermit, and this seemed as safe a place as any. See, I had stopped letting people get close. It was more a defense mechanism than anything else. The end result of that long period of isolation was a severe depression (a concept I wasn’t even prepared to admit could exist).

 

As a result, I began my participation here more as a therapy than anything else. Of course the reviews were invaluable in helping me choose appropriate companions for intimacy, but more and more, I began to appreciate the people I was meeting in the process. Many of you know, that as I began to travel more, I reached out to meet other posters from this board. Since that time I have become close to a few people and have invited a number of guys to join me on vacation down in Florida.

 

What I mean to say is, the men I have met here are almost to a man, GREAT GUYS. Some have opened their lives and homes to me as well.

 

Thank you Hooboy for providing me with that.

 

To all of those I have met and will meet, and to all the other men who participate or even lurk at this site:

 

I wish you a loving Holiday season and a New year filled with close friends and family, much travel, intimacy and most of all LOVE.

 

Blessings to all

[Guest rohale]

You wrote a wonderful piece, to be honest it's very touching and I'm quite moved by your sincerity. Your words make me think about my own life. The things I'm trying to accomplish on a weekly basis, whether it's for myself or people who are dear and close to my heart. My friends always feel sorry for me, I'm on the road a lot. Due to my traveling schedule I dont see them anymore. It definitely takes it's toll on me. This past week, I was awfully lucky, due to the Christmas time frame, I was able to actually stay in California and not travel on airlines. I was very happy about that. Some of my personal friends and also a few co-workers were quite shocked to see me. Especially my roomate, he hadn't seen me in two weeks. For the last few days, we've been hanging out. We both surf, this past week the swells at times almost reached 10 ft. It was really cool to get our surfboards and really enjoy spending time hitting the waves.

 

I do have mixed feelings over certain things I'm doing. In the past I used to give life updates besides my family and close friends. If anyone asked, I would respond without any hesitation. Even it cost myself sleep time, I would still do it out of guilt and obligation as to my whereabouts and projects I'm involved in. About a month or so I put a stop to it. I was talking to my best friend in the UK and he kind of convinced me it's just too time consuming to have to do something like that. Nowadays I just update people who are close to the fold. I still somewhat mixed feelings about that. One day I'll figure out what I ought to be doing.

 

Within hours from now, I'm heading abroad to spend an extended period of time with my family. I cherish the amount of time that I can spend with them. It also gives me the chance to breathe, relax and sleep better. It's also great for me to see my old friends, people who I grew up and still maintain frienships with. I always have a great time. I was just thinking that this will be the second Christmas and New Years in a row that I'll be spending with my family. I'm very grateful to have these opportunities. My only sadness is that I wont have the chance to see my mum. She opted to stay home. I was hoping she would change her mind, but apparently not.

 

To go in a different direction, like yourself, I too discovered this site by chance, maybe twelve months ago now. I too have met some very interesting people along the way. It's been for me a really good experience. This site has opened up my eyes in a big way and I'm very grateful. I'm glad Hooboy started this site, he's the guv and tremendouse kudos to him. I think it's fair to say that every poster has benefited from this site in way or another. I was thinking, not too long ago, I had the opportunity to spend some time in Cabo San Lucas with a really great guy in his own right. We both definitely need it for entirely different reasons. One of the things that stands out in my mind was watching a sunset and having a nice conversation. It's like the old Domino Principle. One affects the other. Had I not have come across this site, this Cabo trip and enjoying the sweetness of observing a sunset would never have happened. Or I suppose it probably would done with other people under an entirely different set of circumstances. I believe in karma and everything happens for a reason. I've personally benefited from this site.

 

BTW, I must admit, I very much enjoy reading your posts, I respect your opinions a lot. This thread is no different. I wish you jackhammer and everyone else on this site Happy Holidays and a Merry New Year.

 

Rohale

[Guest Mikel]

I appreciate the level of sincerity in your post. The season brings out the best in each of us if we haven't gone all commercial. Thanks for taking the time for your reflection. Have a happy holiday!

[Spida]

Jackhammer,

 

It was awesome meeting you, speaking to you on the phone and getting to know you (and hopefully going to Brazil next year!). I am very glad that you found this site, and very glad that you were able to let people back in we are all blessed by this!

 

I have met some really nice people on this site and it has been fun reading some interesting and sometimes very thought provoking posts! It has been a forum for me to post my questions and my exploits (no matter if people want to hear them or not!) and has helped me come out of the closet.. Thanks everyone for your invaluable advice about so many different topics not just who to hire.

 

Have a great holiday everyone!