When I don't discuss $ upfront

[Quest]

Sometimes I book an appoointment with an escort without discussing his rate. I know his rate because he advertises it. If he advertises an hourly rate I know 2 hours will be 2times his hourly rate or less. One time an escort who showed up told me he almost bailed at the last minute because he though I was not legit, because I never asked. He did show and we have met several times since and I dont discuss his rates, always pay him more than he expects, never less. Recently an escort after several polite emails we agreed to a date and time of 5 hours. His all night rate is posted so i know that is the max I would have to pay. He did quote me his rate and I responded quickly saying I agreed as it was less than an over night. In his next email he suggested I was not serious and his intuition was telling him i was not legit. I realize that escorts take a lot of crank inquiries but do you think my style raises a flag?

[Guest Magnus]

Interesting question, but I think it is better asked in the "Deli" or "Ask an Escort" forum than here.

[Epigonos]

I always book an escort for more than one hour. Thus I ALWAYS ask upfront his fee for the number of hours I require simply because most escorts offer a discounted rate after the first hour.

[+ sf westcoaster]

I always verify the rate. It is not unusual for an escort to have one rate on one site and a different rate on another site. I have also found that if an excort is traveling they frequently change the rate to fit the local. Lastly as Epigonos has said, multiple hour sessions are often discounted.

[Mark Gordon]

I think it is perfectly fine not to ask the rate for any length of session that is quoted in an ad. I actually prefer not to discuss money unless it's necessary, just as a matter of taste. I don't mind if a client asks, but will sometimes just refer him back to my ad. It is the escort's responsibility to honour a published rate. If there are any extenuating circumstances that will change the rate, such as transportation expenses, it's up to the escort to make this clear in advance of the appointment. However, if there is no published rate for multiple hours, it is likely to work out in your favour to inquire if there's a discount for additional hours and it would likely raise red flags with the escort if you didn't. American escorts may be more hesitant to discuss money because of the legal situation there.

[jawjateck]

I would never go into an appointment with an escort without a definitive agreement on his fee confirmed either on the phone or by email in advance, primarily because I never do hourlies/quickies, and I want confirmation of the fee for the session I am scheduling. When we meet, there is no discussion about money whatsoever. I hand him his fee in an unsealed envelope, and nothing more is said about it. But that's me....Whatever works for you.....heh....to each his own.