A FELLOW ESCORT ASKED ME A QUESTION i CANNOT ANSWER SO I COME FOR ANSWERS!

[instudiocity]

Good thoughts all. One thing occurs to me. An escort is really not a private person. He has put himself out there, picture and all, for hire, and what people are buying, at least initially, is his public presentation. So any other public presentation has potential for clouding the waters.

Or said another way, there's the person and the persona. Don't mix them. If you're playing the persona of stud escort, don't reveal personal things. I have had escorts reveal to me that they reserve certain sexual acts strictly for their BF. Some only bottom, some only top, some only kiss, some only suck - it's something they've reserved for their BF. OK.

 

But most of this thing we're buying, getting laid with/by/to you, is about that persona you sold me. Don't solve the mystery!

[Mark Gordon]

But a couple of questions. One that arises from something Joey said when he said Saturday nights aren't big escorting nights. I find that kind of surprising actually. For the escorts: is that your experience too and any guesses why? I woud think that would be the biggest day of the week. And if it isn't what would you say is the biggest day of the week.

 

Saturday nights are good for me, better than most weeknights. But the most popular time slot is Friday after work. I've had up to 4 guys wanting to come at the same time then.

 

But a question in a more lightherted way of looking at it: have you ever met someone on a hookup site, gone to meet with them and then find out that they were a client, unbeknownst to you prior to meeting? How in the hell would you handle that?

 

If you mean a new client, I would go ahead with the session, but ask them to contact me via the contact info in my ads in the future. If you mean a previous client, his couldn't happen to me, as I always see clear face pics before meeting for a hookup and usually webcam as well. However, there was this one guy who I originally met by picking him up in a club. A few months later, I was rather surprised to have him show up as a client. He hired me several more times after that as well.

[Michael Wayne]

Since the majority of my local clients are married guys sometimes Saturdays for me can be slower than a typical weekday. For me 2pm tuesdays are prime time when they can sneak away from the office to my condo for a litle Mikey time. Also weekdays jam up cause I travel sometimes on weekends and am only available locally mid week. Most calls on saturday are dudes who are quite drunk. I don't know bout yall but for me drunk sex is bad sex. http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[AdamATL77]

I've been skimming over this thread for the last two days and find it amusing. I find it amusing because every view about escorts on hookup sites has some truth to them but none are wholly true. From my personal experience, having playmates does keep the spice alive for the clients. But there is also the headaches: don't do anything to piss off the ones that might be or become clients, finding the hookup that suits my urges, and not give potential clients the wrong idea when they see me on a hookup site.

 

A rejection notice on a hookup site will read to potential clients as you will not perform to the best of your ability if they hire you. Truth hurts and I will not be popular in everyone's eyes for saying this. I get lines from clients that contradict the actions. "I don't want it to be all about the money." "I want an escort who is into me." The reason this industry exists is that it is about money and if the escort was both into you and it wasn't about the money, wouldn't that lead to a freebie? The truth is it's my job to make you FEEL good, I deliver what you want when you are paying. My FREE time is about what I want. Clients would have to be reminded that when you are looking for your urges, you are in essence the client and not the escort -- even though it's free for you since it's a hookup site. And that is where double standards get formed. So this first reason in itself should keep an escort away from too much time on hookup sites.

 

Another reason it doesn't work: getting what you immediately want will throw off clients. I'm versatile but this applies to escorts who are solely top or bottom too. I top most of my clients and enjoy it A LOT, but sometimes I either want a bottom and be more passive or I want a top or flip roles. If I don't get variety in, the sex just gets boring. It's hard to make it clear to clients that what you want in your time off doesn't always reflect what you do for them and that you can perform better for them if you do something to get rid of your other urges. Some of them will see you looking to hook up with types that aren't them and assume you aren't going to be into them. How do you tell the total bottom he caught you looking for a hung top because you have been topping day in and day out for the last month and want some dick yourself?

 

Yet another reason escorts on hookup sites doesn't work well is that signals get crossed. Trying to tell someone that you don't want to hook up might as well be saying I don't want to be hired by you because I'm not into you. Trying to tell someone that you would hookup with them is saying you would do it for free (why not every time?). And with Manhunt and gay.com, the escort has to be careful not to get caught or reported or he will be deleted for escorting on their site.

[AdamATL77]

But a couple of questions. One that arises from something Joey said when he said Saturday nights aren't big escorting nights. I find that kind of surprising actually. For the escorts: is that your experience too and any guesses why? I woud think that would be the biggest day of the week. And if it isn't what would you say is the biggest day of the week.

 

Heavy days vary all the time. I have a lot of married or partnered men who only meet on weekday afternoons. BUT some couples after spending every week night together, do different activities during the weekend and I get impromptu appointments based on when they can get away.

 

For some reason, guys act like women with synced menstrual cycles. Many of them will want the same days as the others. If the weekend is slow, Monday and Tuesday will be busy. If I was busy Wednesday through Friday, the weekend will be slow. If I'm busy Friday and Saturday, Sunday through Tuesday will be slow.