OneTimeOnly

On 2/1/2022 at 12:17 AM, Jamie21 said:

Well I agree about asking but that’s about all. Because the sensual/erotic style of massage isn’t regulated the content isn’t defined by any body or authority, so ask what it includes if it’s described as sensual or erotic.
 

@OneTimeOnlyseems to be considering things from a US perspective. Describing yourself as a sensual masseur, offering sexual services and escorting will not get you busted here in the UK and in most of Europe. It’s legal (depending on how it’s sold).

So sensual CAN mean a naked masseur, and a happy ending and more. Just ask the question if in doubt. 

Yes, I’m talking about American way of things. Escorting is legal in many European countries. But here it’s federally illegal. And they’ve been doing busts like crazy lately

This is the thing. So many of you expect full course meals when they’re not for sale. Sensual does NOT require you to have a naked masseur. Nor a happy ending. Just because one or two masseurs  believe that it is obviously apart of it, they’re highly mistaken. Sensual doesn’t mean sex. It mean sexy. But, sexy doesn’t mean you are deserving or paying for a happy ending or sexual favor. The touch,  the stroke of the hands and fingers, the closeness. That’s sensual. Erotic I can understand a naked masseur but stop applying your thoughts that you are paying for what you think it is. Ask your masseur and go from there. I see so many complaining on this site about expectations but give very little or try to negotiate us out of our prices. But then get mad when you don’t get what you want in the same fashion as a toddler. To then go on and write scathing reviews when you didn’t even ask proper questions. And then you don’t care or just don’t think about the fact that we have who are actually licensed have to worry about busts. We lose our licensing and possible jail time with high fines if we get caught doing things we legally shouldn’t be while having a license to do this. Like, really be considerate of what we go through and what we have to worry about. If you want sex and sexual favors hire an erotic masseur or an escort. But stop treating and talking about us on this forums m like we’re just toys for your benefit and not human beings. 

How do you feel when on Grindr or something and recognized? I personally keep my work and personal life separate. How do you approach it?

Not to cause a pity party or anything, but when someone tells me they want me to rape them. It takes me back to being a child and my uncle holding me down with his friend all those nights. Or when I was drunk with a person I thought was my friend and I couldn't move. So, he penetrated me when I told him to get off. And it makes me feel weak being a giant who was taken advantage of. I think that's why it should be considered. Because you don't know what type of trauma you're bringing up when asking someone to rape you or when you make it a fantasy that you want them to do

Gosh I am really sorry to hear of your experience.

 

I don't personally have a fantasy of being raped, mine would probably be more along the line of giving up control if I were to explore that genre. But, I think I found it difficult to open up to escorts about my desires in general (early on). If I were to do so, and promptly got scolded or told my fantasies were hurtful or inappropriate, I think I would completely recoil and not ever feel comfortable sharing them again.

I didn't shame him. And there is a difference between domination and rape. Domination is consensual. Rape is not. It's not just about taking control. It's inflicting unwanted pain. Non consent is the problem. If you're consenting then fine. But, words matter. I think saying, "dominate me" or something on that line. Rape is trigger word for too many people who have been on the receiving end of someone doing things they didn't want

You're in a sex-based business: Get used to guys plainly sharing their innermost fantasies.

 

Asking guys to soften those sexual edges is like asking Mel Brooks to go gentle on the satire.

 

Also realize that a lot of what people say vs what they actually do is nothing more than pre-fuck bravado.

No one is asking anyone to soften their sexual edges. And I'm sorry but I'm not someone who thinks that I have to accept someone's ideas just because I'm a sex worker. I've done this for nearly a decade. I can still be uncomfortable with a scenario. And unless you've been through the trauma of rape, I don't think you have a right to tell someone how they should think. Regardless of their line of work

I know your post is not seeking sympathy, but I just want to say Im really sorry that happened to you. I happen to agree that the term should be avoided. Rape isnt about sex, its about violence - which is more than simple dominance or control, though those are certainly aspects of it. The thing is that some people, for whatever reason, are turned on by violence - a tiny minority even to the point of murder. And there are people use the term 'rape' even though violence doesnt turn them on but without fully appreciating how it might affect others. They aren't looking to trigger anyone, but that is invariably what can happen.

I appreciate that a lot. I try not to get offended about everything that's said. But this term is grotesque to me. I don't know what makes you think saying you want me to rape you with my black cock, is sexy. Not you, of course. But, you know what I mean

It's partly due to online gaming, which isn't about sex, but it's common for gamers to say "I was raped by 5 mobs," meaning their character was killed by a crowd, and female gamers use it a lot too, so somehow the word gets "normalized," even though I cringe every single time I hear it.

No, I mean clients telling me they want me to rape them endlessly with my toys or black cock. Not gaming. These are older men saying these things

Apple cider vinegar helps a lot with mine

I wish people wouldn't use that word so loosely like it's a turn on. I don't kink shame. But, I find it highly insensitive when clients use the term to describe what they want me to do to them. I'm pretty sure someone will tell me I'm wrong for feeling this way. But, as someone who has survived rape, I don't think it should be fetishized

Interesting. Collin has been discussed out here before, and it wasn’t pretty. I was also harassed by Collin at one point for no good reason. This is not surprising.

I didn't want to go on here and discuss any of it. When I first read the post from April, I laughed it off. But, this is going too far. I truly don't want drama. And I don't wish anyone any ill will. If you press the link highlighted in blue that says "My Evidence" you will see what I'm talking about

This is Phoenix. I didn't want to respond to this but now, I feel the need to. I have never met you Mepatter. And the fact that you even said as much the first time you decided to write on here and then change it and saying that we had a disaster of a meet up, is very telling. Which is it? We met or didn't? Secondly, you've made up lies about me being in my thirties and other things. I'm 29. I'm more than willing to prove as much with a picture ID. You don't even know my real name. The other part I'll address is that you said, I call the police on clients. Now, that alone made me have to respond. It would be hypocritical as an escort to do that and not face my own criminal charges. However, I did call the police on your buddy Collinsgotaback because the both of you decided to spend every day calling and harassing me. And threatening me by saying that my business is over and that you'll be making sure I don't get any. All of this, shows a level of immaturity between the both of you. Collin was warned to leave me alone multiple times by rentmen admin(Which is why he was deleted). JUST LIKE YOU WERE. When Collin decided to continue to call and harass me, I warned him that I would call the police because it's ridiculous that I couldn't have a moment of peace because of him. HE IS THE ONLY PERSON I CALLED THE POLICE ON. Which you would know because he and you are in this together. I refuse to respond to anymore blatant lies or accusations. And GuyFawkes and Former Lurker are both right. This he said he said bs is ridiculous and I won't waste more time on it. I'm happily living my life. I don't have time to waste worrying about you or Collins negativity. In fact, I wish you both peace and happiness. But, I would greatly appreciate it if you both left me alone now. And I'm attaching my evidence as well my evidence

Enjoy your lives. And may you stay safe during these times.