RobbieC

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On 9/29/2021 at 11:26 PM, 510guy said:

Wow. Bumping a post 10 years later 

What’s right is right.  An important unanswered question is timeless…. 😀

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Me as well. Thanks!

Any updates here?

I'll PM you

Can you pm me details as well? I'll be going to Bangkok soon

When I used to have a bad experience, and I’m approached about a HE, I decline as I’m already thinking about where I’m going to book next. And by next, I mean like as soon as I walk out the door. Yes those days are expensive but I refuse to sit on a bad experience without taking action.

Ha! I've done this too, but only in Asia where the massages are 20 bucks. :-)

This is a great thread! Thanks to all who weigh in.

 

As for me, the answer is yes, it can be addicting and get out of control emotionally and financially. But I will say this: in my nearly ten years of getting massages I have met some of nicest most interesting guys and I would not trade it for anything. I’m friends with some now and see others occasionally. Yes there are bad, if not hilariously awful experiences, but those are few and far between. If one is careful and learns how to read ads so as to choose the good ones and avoid the bad, it can be a rewarding (sometimes expensive) way to interact with people and have genuinely good experiences.

 

Regardless of motives on either side, we are all still people looking for connection. If we treat others respectfully then the chances of the encounter being mutually rewarding are much higher. I’ve experienced this several times. Massage can turn into a genuine connection.

 

What I’ve also found is that I like giving massages as much as receiving them now. A good masseur can teach you a lot about how to receive the massage as well as how to give a good one. I have had more than one masseur tell me they are going to give me the massage they would like to have.

 

I think at the end of the day it all depends on what you are in it for and what you want to get out of it short term and long term. I see massage as a language of touch, a way to converse. Receiving touch is like listening to someone. Some masseurs have a lot to say I want to hear, others not so much!

 

Enjoy it!

"Hilariously awful" - haha--what a positive way to see it. When I get a bad one, I'm just pissed, and get my "revenge" by being as soft and limp as I can possibly be (I hope they see that as instant feedback). I'm going to try to see it as "hilariously awful" next time......

I wish I hadn't found this thread. My imagination is running wild and keeping me from my work....

Has anyone had a chance to try the Men's Grooming Spa in Cathedral City? Any masseur recommendations?

Yes, if anybody else has any experience, I'd love to know if it's worth trying.

The mystery of the encounter is intoxicating. And if it's a repeat encounter, and he goes straight for my sweet spot, well that's intoxicating too.....

I'll be going there soon. Bump......

I hope it goes well, enjoy!

 

Am I the only one whose partaking in massages is limited by the selection of the masseurs? Sure, I splurged while I was getting to know the market, but then I discovered that very few were actually worth it. David moved out of Chicago a while ago, Brad is now gone too, and I don't see Nikola's listing any more, WTF?! :-( I am down to 1-2 guys I want to see, and even them I don't want to see that frequently, and this is Chicago I am talking about. You could say that the market cured my addiction...

Then move to Bali or Thailand--the land of addictions.....

Sent you a PM

I’d like to hear the same

Interesting you would say that. Since I've discovered this world, I too want to prolong my shelf life. I've dumped 30 lbs since I've started the addiction to masseurs.

I hear ya. I consider it a real compliment when the actual massage lasts five minutes or less when they work my shoulders and calves for 45 min, I’ll know th8ngs hav3 changed....

Sounds like we come from similar backgrounds. I feel like I have a lot of catching up to do. Although my current go to says that daddys are pretty popular with some. Sure hoping that's true.

I’m hoping that staying thin and fit will prolong my “shelf life”

I am new to this, but find myself in the addicted stage. Spending way more than my budget should allow. But not knowing this existed for so many years, now in middle age, I'm like a kid in a candy store. Going to see a new provider tonight! Excited for the new experience, but blowing the budget even further.

“Kid I need a candy store” is a very accurate expression. Being closeted with no hope of ever being out, I feel this is my “one shot.” I have a few short years left where the masseurs just might be into me too. After that they’ll def be pretending.

I’ve been indulging in erotic massages for many years. All the comments on this thread have been quite interesting. One thing for newbies is not to be surprised when the quality and/or hotness of the experience begins to fade. With familiarity may come a little less effort being put into the massage. One of my more recent “regulars”, who I no longer see, was incredible at the beginning. But after a few months, the enthusiasm waned, and then it was more like just “going through the motions” even though the chemistry and release were satisfying. Maybe a rotation among 2-3 providers would help with that. My current “go to” guy is starting to travel a lot which makes getting to see him a challenge. So, I’m researching to see who else is on the horizon.

Is it because the quality is going down, or the "mystery" is gone? As much as I enjoy some, I think there's nothing like having a new guy, not sure what he's going to do next.

Well, I can say at the 3-month mark, I have not even come close to the “cool down phase”

Come on, guys!

All these confessions with no names?! ?

 

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My name is Robbie, and I'm a massage addict....

I only get massages when I travel for work(which is about 4 or 5 times a year), never locally, never. The local masseurs look like "feet." Plus I like the variety abroad and masseur shopping can be fun. I try to find guys that I connect with chemistry and personality wise and luckily for me I tend find masseurs who enjoy my company,(and who like a little chocolate now and then:)) which is always a plus. It is an expensive habit but a while ago I tore my achillies tendon and all the walking around bothered my leg. I got a massage while away on a trip, and submitted it to my business office and they paid for it! I have pulled this off about 2 other times since! Terp

Yes, I also would never get a massage near my home. I'm in Asia, so massages are much cheaper, but can't get them except in certain countries. But then recently I got about 8 in a week. Maybe that accounts for my withdrawal pains now.....

This can be addicting! Especially if you find a hot masseur.

This can be addicting! Especially if you find a hot masseur.

I think that's my problem. I found a great one, and I'm crushing like a girl in middle school. LOL

I'm really new to all this massage thing, and thought that it might just be an occasional indulgence. But it's been a couple weeks since I last got a massage, and I think I'm having real withdrawal pains. Anybody else have this problem? Now just "regular" jo doesn't seem all that great. Maybe I should stop forever and break the addiction.

So, @RobbieC, today you will ask about Indianapolis, tomorrow Des Moines, and Saturday Omaha. Check back Saturday for next week's assignments.

Sorry, mate, but I don't understand your post at all....

2/3 is NYC !

I travel constantly all around the world, but almost never make it to NY. Maybe it's time I did....