PrettyboyJake

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Hey guys, these were both extremely informative, thank you so much! I wasn't really sure how to phrase it as ""helpful"", I just explained as best as I could with as much information as I could think to give. Figured reaching out somewhere with other transmen who also escort would be my best bet for any kind of insight.

That said, yeah, I've been seeing that there wasn't any industry norms. It wasn't even until about.. maybe two years ago that I started seeing different kinds of people aside from trans women and cis people. I'm definitely seeing the huge differences in screening methods depending on gender ID, especially with these replies. I'd thought maybe it just wasn't talked about in the gay male scene - pretty much no forum/place to talk, be it reddit or tumblr or here or other m4m escorting forums had any info - but the male privilege thing definitely explains why it doesn't seem to have any set standard.

I'm learning (real fast lol) about how each person's got their own individual comfort levels re: screening, too. Both these responses have given me a lot more to think about in terms of what my comfort levels are & how to go about implementing whatever makes me feel okay. I have the same concern about violence because of the statistics so I think mine, too, are going to settle into being somewhat more stringent than if I was cis. I guess I'm going to have to anticipate some people just not being cool with it & passing, but that's fair. If I've learned anything now, it's that my processes are gonna be evolving as I'm in this, more.

I hadn't even begun to consider generational preferences, either! Damn, thank you for bringing that up. I've taken away a lot from all this information and, again, I gotta say thank you. You guys are awesome and I appreciate the time it took to write such detailed replies.

Lol...I didn't mean it to be, my mistake. But in each case, they were happy to be in their man mode, and mainly dressed up for drag shows and parties, etc. They weren't going for the transition so to speak.

 

That said...one of my bestie is a full TS, so I'm not at all phobic. Just personally...there was/is even a guy who I fucked as a boy a couple of times. Super cute. Then he would occasionally do this drag stuff and become unrecognizable. I wouldn't fuck him in his get up because that's not the person he was when he first approached me, nor do I like long hair and nails, glitter and heels. But if he turns into a boy again after the club....shit, I wouldn't say no.

Hey man, yeah, dw about it; most people I meet who say transphobic stuff, they don't mean to be, it's just out of not knowing the needed information lol. You can still accidentally say transphobic stuff and not be intentionally transphobic yourself!

I have a lot of respect for the people who do drag. It looks like it takes a l o t of work. I'd like to myself some day but lord, I just don't have the patience right now..

Before I get too sidetracked, do you have any input on the screening issue? I'm still puzzling that one out, haha.

Not to be flippant, but I notice a lot of Ftm escorts nowadays than during the rentboy days. I think it's interesting, but I've also come across several self-professed bi-guys, and perhaps that would be quite the market to entertain.

 

However, in my case...I've seen an innumerable amount of men in my days, however I've never come across an actual FTM, or even an actual woman for that matter. All the TS girls I've come across were either in full man mode, or in one case...before they made the transition to female.

Aye, yeah, it seems to me that the amount of FTM guys becoming visible in escorting/porn/etc. is directly proportionate to how much accurate information, good medical care, and general acceptance there is. It's a new age! I remember way back when I first saw Buck Angel and I just about lost my mind 'cause I'd thought til that point that nobody was interested in trans dudes in any kind of sex work. It'd be sweet to have some trans clients as a trans provider, but it seems totally dominated by cis guys right now.

Edit: As a heads-up, some of the language you're using is actually pretty transphobic. Anyone who hasn't transitioned yet is still the gender they ID with. No 'man mode' about it!

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Thanks mate! I make sure to disclose my status on my rentmen page; I'm specifically looking for clients who want what I have to offer so it's good for both sides of the equation.

Hey everyone! Baby FTM escort here. I haven't been able to find much information on this from a male escort's perspective (both cis and trans), just client-side, so I'm curious - what kind of screening information do you like to get before seeing a client, and when do you like to get it? I can see the pros and cons of early on or later on, but it feels like I might be missing some good perspectives while I'm still feeling out when and how I try to screen. I know a lot of it has to do with what makes me personally feel comfortable (which I'm still feeling out) but the standards seem to be way different vs. straight escorting.

Also, as an aside, I'm totally looking to connect / chat with other FTM escorts! Hit me up or I'll hit you up, whichever!