twinkboylover28

Hmmm....spoken like a true smoker.
 
Do you have any proof to back that statement up? Being a non-smoker, I always tip 20-25% for good service in restaurants, and considering around 99% of the entire USA and CANADA are now, or have already been smoke-free for several years inside bars and restaurants.... Florida seems to be one of the last holdouts.
 
FAKE NEWS!

Hmmm....spoken like a true smoker.
 
Do you have any proof to back that statement up? Being a non-smoker, I always tip 20-25% for good service in restaurants, and considering around 99% of the entire USA and CANADA are now, or have already been smoke-free for several years inside bars and restaurants.... Florida seems to be one of the last holdouts.
 
FAKE NEWS!

On Facebook, LeBoy is conducting a poll as to whether the inside bar should go smokeless and have all smoking restricted to the outdoor patio. The results are running about 78% in favor.
The smoking policy regarding Florida bars has been a topic of conversation here for many years.

Slightly random, but related:
 
Part of forgiveness is apology [receiving, not giving, in the case of the forgiver]. A previous Dean and Chancellor of my Medical School wrote a book, On Apology.
 


http://www.amazon.com/Apology-Aaron-Lazare/dp/0195189116/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1454037800&sr=8-1&keywords=on++apology
 
Two of his points on apology include (a) expression of guilt, and (b) promise to improve and sin no more.
 
Do not be brought into the argument with just "I'm sorry." That's not sufficient reason to forgive. Acknowledgment that an offense was committed is necessary.
 
Here endeth the randomness.

And it's amazing to me how BVB took my point of view the wrong way when I pointed out what you just mentioned just now on how some people can be that way in taking vengeance on they're own accord and just let the "universe" deal with it. Then again, when one takes vengeance upon themselves to get even, it doesn't make the innocent person who was wronged look good as two wrongs don't make a right.
 
Thank you, Epigonos for proving my point exactly - just like how BVB proved his to me(for which I understood entirely where he was coming from, but don't think he was trying to get the jest of mine too well). .
 
Personally, It's just best to take once again take the" high road" and just walk away. Again, what goes around, comes around. It's not wishing ill on someone, but just a proven fact of life is when you do someone wrong viciously to it can tend to come back to haunt you.
 
My Mother, Grandmother, Aunts, Uncles, and all have always taught me that growing up, and glad it's always been installed and drilled in my head, so I don't have bad things come my way knowing of such a "myth".

No, no, no......It's not what you write that makes me/us angry, it's what you have shared with us about what some other insensitive assholes have said or done to you.....whether on this forum or in your personal or business life....or just how terrible they treat others. Those losers are what makes me angry.

I'm a true Scorpio through and through. Scorpio's forget NOTHING and forgive NOTHING and they get even with a vengeance.

No, I think your missing my point entirely which is basic common sense stuff, but it's okay.
 
I get your point loud and clear, but your not trying to understand where I'm coming from as it's not a one way street here. You need to understand the other person's point of view, and not just your own, BVB.
 
It's good to take others advice sometimes too, and not feel you have to be right on everything as I have a voice too you know, and sorry if that offends you.

A good fuck heals all wounds too

No different of how it amazes me when people do awful acts or say hurtful things unto others, and get away with it. That's what's so-called "unjust" to me.

2 cliches... You reap what you sow. What you give is what you get. What goes around, comes around. Sorry, I got nothin' else.
Here I just post 'What goes around comes around' and JDXXX says the same. . Brilliant minds do think alike.

Like I said, I don't wish no one ill will on anybody, but what do think people mean when they say "take the high road" as what goes around comes around by you walking away by not retaliating.

I don't take a squat on your worldview, so extend me the same courtesy.

I'm no High-Roader. I am out there shaking the pom-poms for Miss Karma

It's not wishing bad on someone at all, but sometimes it's good for people who do nasty things unto others continuously to get a good dose of they're own medicine or else they'll keep doing it.
 
Why do you think our parents would punish us at times when we were bad or disobedient? To teach us a lesson so we don't keep repeating the same patterns that got us in trouble in the first place right? It's the scnero in this case when I refer to the word "Karma".
 
It's even written in the bible of those who "reap what they sow" meaning you get back what you put out there unto others as I'm a firm believer in that which is why I always believe in doing good and not bad. Being brought up as a Christian - it's the best way to avoid chaos, and not have "Karma" come back at you.

But you can't forget. It is part of you. It is part of your memory. But it shouldn't affect your forgiveness.

True, but sometimes by the wounded individual getting even doesn't make the situation better - actually getting even can make a compromising situation 10 times worse and doesn't make you any better then they are.
 
Best to let karma do it's job as you just kick back with a bag of buttered popcorn and watch it all unfold for them which is the best revenge one can gain victory from anyday as you didn't have to do a thing.

Hi Geminibear,
 
Thanks for creating this thread as I myself in the past year have been painfully hurt and betrayed recently by a couple of people I thought were my close friends, and came to find out they bad mouthed me to each other, and even stabbed me in the back on more then one occasion.
 
Wanted to get even, and been tempted to do so considering the circumstances of how badly burned I was in the situation, but decided to take the "high road" instead.
 
Really hurts when you been loyal to someone you consider as a friend, and then consequently in the end find out they've betrayed your trust and confidence in them cold-heartedly to others. Then when you call them out on it, and express your hurt and anger - they wanna so call end they're association/friendship with you after they've done you wrong viciously.
 
Really hurts to be burned terribly in that manner, but it's good these things do happen to show us who are true friends are in this world.
 
Now, how shitty is that? By them ending a friendship after you call them like that shows maybe they can't stand you hurt you, and is a firm of guilt maybe?
 
I can totally relate what your experiencing, and sorry to hear this happened to you.
 
I'd say take the high road, and eventually forgive, but not hold a grudge. I'm gonna do the same thing is to forgive, but on guard of who I consider as close friends from now on. Especially if I been burned by them already horrifically in the past without end.
 
Be the bigger person and forgive, baby as it'll pay off to keep a positive outlook and know what goes around does eventually come around to those who are nasty individuals that can't be trusted with a two dollar bill as karma my dear can be a vicious bitch too. Just doesn't pay to be nasty to people, and always be gracious and kind to others as when your nasty to people who been loyal and kind to you, it'll come back on you and sometimes 10 times fold worse then the crap that person has done unto you.
 
Just isn't worth it, and best to take the high road in these sort of unfortunate circumstances.
 
Really is a shame, but it happens, and we move on with our head up high knowing they're are more fish in the sea as you win some and you lose some as they swim up stream. ;)