Tighty

I emailed back-and-forth with him several times three weeks ago or so to plan a meeting a week or so in the future....he was very positive, responsive, and sent a couple extra pictures showing his face....a few days later, when I wrote to confirm a specific date, I added that I'm about 20 lbs. overweight.....never heard from him again....

Ouch, how rude. From now on, deduct 20 lbs from your weight when corresponding. Escorts pad their height anyways. Lol

First, let me say that I enjoy a wide range of massage experiences; I enjoy a really good therapeutic massage, and I also enjoy a fun erotic massage. And, everything in between.

 

The other day, I went to a new (to me) therapeutic masseur, who gave one of the very best massages I've had. He clearly enjoyed his work, studied hard to perfect his technique, and took pride in providing a genuinely therapeutic service. His energy was very warm and friendly, and although he didn't avoid sensitive areas, he remained clothed and didn't make any moves that were overtly sexual. 30 minutes into this massage I knew that I had found a winner, and that I would be back.

 

As the massage was nearly over, he somewhat suddenly asked "would you like a happy ending?"

 

I hesitated for quite a while before responding. The truth was that I found him really hot, and would have loved a little playtime, but I said "Um, no, not this time." After it was over, and I was getting dressed, I tried to explain to him that I really had trouble saying "no" to that question, but I had too much respect for him as a skilled masseur to request that kind of service. This conversation felt a little awkward, and I don't really know if he understood what I was trying to say.

 

I feel like talented professionals like this guy shouldn't have to stoop to sexual favors in order to build a satisfied customer base, but I suspect that they feel pressure to appease customers who expect them to be sex workers. If a guy advertises massage as a cover for light escort work, or if a therapist enjoys the sexual exchange with their customers, then I think it's great. However, if a talented professional masseur feels like he needs to get me off in order to be competitive in the market, it feels a little gross.

 

So, now I'm looking forward to another massage from him. He's good enough that I'd go back to him for a purely therapeutic session, but I can't help hoping it goes a little further. Any ideas about how I can show him the respect he deserves, but still let him know that I'd like more, within his comfort zone? I think that it is pretty clear that if I ask directly he'll provide the happy ending, but I hate the idea that he'd go along with something that he doesn't really want to do because he feels he has to.

I totally understand your sentiment

On a different note, am I the only one who finds happy ending awkward and thus unappealin?

In a recent thread Juan Bruno mentioned that he is a libra.