I couldn't agree with you more. I guess some folks just can't help trying to cleaner than others.
Back to subject: I came out in my 40's at a time when men by 30 they had to be married and there was a lot of pressure to do it. All my folks told "don't worry, we figured it out already".
Btw I noticed a huge change in the acceptance of gay people among African Americans after Biden first and Obama later came out in support of gay marriage. Obviously they had to wait to do it after they got reelected, while Romney campaign in bringing back DADT.