Mymymy

Very kind, thank you 🥰🫂 I get what you’re saying, and I appreciate the feedback. For clarity, about 95% of the time there’s a baseline of services provided at my listed rate. How that’s navigated depends on the factors I mentioned above. I’ve had extensive conversations with other providers(masseurs, escorts, adult performers, spa professionals, etc.), and I feel the hourly rate I’ve chosen accurately reflects that shared standard. I’m not much of an “upsell” or “retail salesman” type of guy. I find that approach can feel misleading, transactional, and honestly makes me uncomfortable. It pulls me out of the moment and subtracts from the already limited time I get to share with someone. Most of the guys I consider my peers or have tiered myself into who happen to take that upsell approach often end up in the same overall rate bracket that I offer anyway…with exceptions of course.

Sure thing. As you’re aware, my interactions start through text when scheduling an appointment, so I’m meeting someone new, often going in blind and in a pretty vulnerable position. I’m quite literally putting all of myself out there for the world to see, within a neat package that still leaves me very human and exposed. There are a lot of factors that influence comfort and connection: mutual respect, communication, hygiene, energy, chemistry, personality, emotional awareness, and even things like anxiety or social comfort. Believe it or not, about four out of five messages providers receive are from people who just want to chat, get off, or waste our time, forgetting there’s a real human being on the other end with emotions, feelings, and limits. Some of us are better equipped than others to handle that constant noise, so crafting a broad message that’s both clear and boundaried helps me filter, save time, and protect my mental well-being from people who approach selfishly or without respect. It’s very real. When I say “within the boundaries of what I’m comfortable with,” I mean exactly that. I read the energy in the room and move at a pace that feels safe and natural for both people. Every experience is different, and my main goal is to create a space where both people feel respected, at ease, and able to just be themselves. As a provider, I’m also giving something of myself in every session. I gain something from each experience too, whether it’s connection, insight, or shared energy. To continue showing up authentically, I have to be true and honest with myself so I can give without ever feeling like I’m compromising my integrity, morals, or self-respect. It’s never about expectation; it’s about genuine connection and comfort for both of us. …That’s was a lot. Hope this helps clarify. 😊

Robert here… again. It’s interesting that my supposed rate has changed from $400–$600 in one post to $600–$800 in this one. For the record, my 60-minute rate has never been any of those numbers. You’ve also made it clear that you’ve never met me, yet continue to make inaccurate and defamatory/slanderous comments about my professionalism and character. Using terms like “loser” or “primadonna” to describe someone you’ve never interacted with says far more about you than it does about me. If you had a legitimate concern or experience, I’d respect that … but this is neither. Please be mindful that your words have consequences. Publicly making false claims and personal attacks crosses the line from opinion to defamation/slander. We’re all human beings trying to navigate this world the best we can. Lead with respect, and you’ll likely receive the same in return.

Robert here. My 60-minute massage rate has never been $400–$600. If that is your claim, it is false and misrepresents my work and my professionalism. You’ve never met me, yet you’re telling people to “play it safe.” Play it safe from what, exactly? I have consistent “rave reviews” from clients who value professionalism, respect, and connection. Your post reflects the opposite of all of that, and says more about you than it does about me or my services. I’ve built strong, genuine relationships with people who approach me with kindness and respect. If someone ignores boundaries or speaks to me unprofessionally, I match that energy when I choose to engage. Few and far between. Providers (or “whores,” as you so crudely put it) talk. We share information about people who treat us poorly(case in point). Before you post a baseless, blanket statement, take a moment to reflect and take accountability for your actions. Better yet, before you ever reach out to any provider, work on your communication skills so you can avoid these negative interactions and harm someone’s ability to earn a living. Take a moment to review your own tone, your approach, and the facts. 🙏😊❤️