For me, it’s getting comfortable with a Boy.
If I’m home, I prefer to have them to my place after asking what their favorite foods are. Make them an exquisite dinner and get to know them, and progress tk the bedroom if there truly is a spark.
If I’m traveling, it means meeting in the hotel bar or a very nice nearby bar for a drink and an actual conversation.
I escorted for a summer about 20 (?!?!) years ago at a time in my life when I could easily charge for it and desperately needed the funds. It’s almost a Red Badge of Courage for me now. I did it when I could and when I needed it most. It’s a nice thing to have in common with the Boys providing today. (And, no, nobody ever treated me as nicely as I try to treat others today.)